Teenage Dating Troubles

[Asterus]

Hello, I just registered here. I just really needed somewhere to let some things off my chest and try to help others with similar troubles.

 

I can't say I'm exactly experienced when it comes to dating. I only started dating two years ago, and have had two girlfriends since then.

 

My first girlfriend let her good looks get to her head, and she started to get really flirty and ended up dating a 26 year old woman behind my back. Messy stuff, huh?

 

Anyway, I speak of that only to give you an idea of where I'm coming from. To the present, or as near to it as is relevant. I was dating another girl a few months ago, in March. We had been friends for a couple of years, but I wanted to take the next step.

 

Before I got a chance to tell her, the very day I'd planned to tell her in fact, she told me she had always been jealous of my ex because she liked me. Hallmark moments ensued.

 

We started dating casually, just hanging out as much as we could, though she had finals and work, and I had driving school, so we couldn't see each other much. It became my way to look forward to each Sunday; we always saw each other on Sunday because we were both free that day.

 

One Sunday, I was going to go to her house to meet her parents and hang out for a while. She called me and broke up with me before I was supposed to come to her house. Her parents wouldn't allow a boy to distract her from school.

 

I understood, as best as I could, I suppose. Still, I was a little depressed. I waited for summer so school would be out, thinking we would pick things back up again.

 

Soon after the "breakup" she started smoking weed. I started to really worry about her, but she would hear none of my reasoning about why she shouldn't be smoking weed. We argued about it and stopped talking for a week or two, but we got over it and moved on. She has stopped smoking since then.

 

We still exchange emails and text each other a few times a week. But she hasn't mentioned wanting to get back together. I don't know whether to be surprised about that or not.

 

I guess what I'm looking for is some advice about what I should do about it. Suggestions?

 

Also, sorry for the really long post. I have a habit of rambling, or so I'm told.

[NiceGuy4Ever]

Well in my opinion if she doesn't seem to be showing any interest of getting back together I say wait but try not to keep your hopes up. If you hang on to this girl one of two things will happen: One, she will not get back with you and all the time you held on to her would have been for not. Two, she will take you back but there will be turmoil with her parents.

 

I truly dislike meddling parents. I feel they should only intervene when absolutely necessary yet they must not actively alter the relationship. Well think of things this way. IF you get back with her, it seems her parents don't approve of you and once she gets back to school they will shun you again playing the same card.

 

The question you need to ask yourself is "Is it worth it?" Find that out, not with a fast answer, but take time to think about it. The answer will come to you. Hope this helps.