t7149968 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 My girlfriend of 7 months, whom I have fallen deeply in love with, all of a sudden wants to take a break and possibly break up. Her excuse is that she thinks that later on she will grow up and not love me anymore and break up with me and the pain would be too great on either of us. She doesn't want any of that. The day before she told me this she was head over heels for me, so happy and cheerful. And randomly, the next morning after going to the beach together, she starts crying and starts telling me she doesn't know whats wrong and that we should take a break. After a bunch of pain and sorrow of even the thought of us breaking up, I was able to talk to her later that same day at night. She told me she wants a break for a week without talking so she can make her decision. And I'm too terrified to wait that long. I'm on day one. I don't know what I should do. Is there anyone who can help me?
guitarplayer1234 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 There is nothing you can do but respect her wishes. She said she doesn't want to talk to you for a week so don't talk to her for a week. In the meantime I think you should be prepared to move on, I'm not trying to be negative but that's the reality of the situation. Focus on yourself right now, get more involved in hobbies, work out, and spend time with friends, anything to help get your mind off of her. If she decides she wants to break up then you'll already have a head start in moving on. Good luck in whatever happens.
bluesky123 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I feel your pain. My ex did the same thing, give her space and be yourself dont say rash things, be kind and sweet. That 's what I've have been doing with no luck ! I wish you all the best, if you need to talk PM me.
boogieboy Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 The best thing you can do right now is stay as far away from her as you can. My ex told me that same BS, and she was dating a new guy at the time. The crying and saying "later on she will grow up and not love me anymore and the pain would be too great on either of us. She doesn't want any of that." Its all acting to lessen your pain. For now, move on because even if you try to get her to admit the truth, shes a coward and she wont tell you what you did wrong to lose her interest in you. he might not even know what you did wrong, she just might have found somone new that caught her eye and she wants to try him out. Staying away from her and acting busy and no affected by this is the best way to get her back IF she decides that she made a mistake. If you feel the need to call or text her, do not, and come here and put "take a break" in the thread search, and keep reading the many threads on what "take a break" really means. That should keep you from calling her once youve read the same stories a few times.
Missing Soul Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I know it sounds like cold truth but brace yourself my friend .
NopeNah Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 The best thing you can do right now is stay as far away from her as you can. My ex told me that same BS, and she was dating a new guy at the time. The crying and saying "later on she will grow up and not love me anymore and the pain would be too great on either of us. She doesn't want any of that." Its all acting to lessen your pain. For now, move on because even if you try to get her to admit the truth, shes a coward and she wont tell you what you did wrong to lose her interest in you. he might not even know what you did wrong, she just might have found somone new that caught her eye and she wants to try him out. Staying away from her and acting busy and no affected by this is the best way to get her back IF she decides that she made a mistake. If you feel the need to call or text her, do not, and come here and put "take a break" in the thread search, and keep reading the many threads on what "take a break" really means. That should keep you from calling her once youve read the same stories a few times. This is EXACTLY what you should do! Even after the week has passed DO NOT CONTACT HER!! If she wants you back, she, now needs to work for it! Goodluck and keep your head high! It happens to the best of us at some point in our lives.
Author t7149968 Posted June 27, 2009 Author Posted June 27, 2009 Ok well I made the worst mistakes I sopose. I couldn't help but talk to her. And I did, so much, I came to her house to talk and it just ended up not helping at all. All she says is that she needs to do some soul searching and find out who she truely is. To me that means we are over with. But I don't want that! If I lose her I'm going to never meet anyone like her again. It's so tough for me. I work only part time and go to the gym in her place. I have nothing else. The majority of the time is dedicated to thinking about her, I can't keep her off my mind. I don't know how I'm going to do deal with this. Sorry that I couldn't listen to your advice, but It was just too hard for me.
guitarplayer1234 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Ok well I made the worst mistakes I sopose. I couldn't help but talk to her. And I did, so much, I came to her house to talk and it just ended up not helping at all. All she says is that she needs to do some soul searching and find out who she truely is. To me that means we are over with. But I don't want that! If I lose her I'm going to never meet anyone like her again. It's so tough for me. I work only part time and go to the gym in her place. I have nothing else. The majority of the time is dedicated to thinking about her, I can't keep her off my mind. I don't know how I'm going to do deal with this. Sorry that I couldn't listen to your advice, but It was just too hard for me. I know its tough to move on but you can't change her mind, try begging and pleading all you want its not going to work. Just let her be. Look at this break up as a lesson, you should never, ever dedicate majority of your time to one person. I think you need to do a bit of soul searching yourself. There's plenty of things to do on this earth and plenty of hobbies you can get into to help occupy your time. No maybe you won't meet someone like her again...you'll meet someone better, someone else will love you again, so much that they won't want to risk losing you. I know its hard to see the bright side in the midst of so much heartache but it gets better, trust me. You had a life before her right? You can have a life after her, you don't need her. Nothing is ever "too hard." I sincerely hope you can find the strength to cut contact with her and try to move on.
sugarmomma Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Have some pride and don't contact her. She will simply lose respect for you and look upon you with pity. Go out and enjoy your life and stop obsessing about her. Maybe that showed in your behavior and turned her off. Women want men who have their own lives and can take care of their own emotional needs. I wouldn't take someone back after they broke up with me. To cause someone that kind of pain then come back just makes one a glutton for punishment. Kick her azz to the curb. NC
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