abouttoloseit Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 To the point. Im no longer with this girl but I never wanted to believe this: She had sex with 17 guys before her 17th birthday some while drunk, most of them casual. She is 22 now and the number is obviously higher. This is actually true. If it walks like duck, quacks like a duck... Am I right? It never sat right with me. Am I being too sensitive? Someone knock some sense into me and say "woa wtf!?"
wow123 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 17 before 17! Run Fast. She has some issues self esteem issues or shes a nymph i dunno. Before 17 1 maybe 2 would be acceptable. She's now 22 so her number could be in the 30's. She doesn't take sex very seriously. STAY AWAY! If a girl in her mid 20's told me 17 I would run.
Author abouttoloseit Posted June 26, 2009 Author Posted June 26, 2009 Not to mention she punched me in the face 3 times because I told her that her abusive language towars me while drunk is not cool. She was a nymph like the 1st 3 months of our relationship, then...it was sex like once a month. Not cool.
asuman Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Not to mention she punched me in the face 3 times because I told her that her abusive language towars me while drunk is not cool. She was a nymph like the 1st 3 months of our relationship, then...it was sex like once a month. Not cool. So on top of being a nymph and punching you in the face, she's also cheating on you. Lovely.
Author abouttoloseit Posted June 26, 2009 Author Posted June 26, 2009 No she never cheated on my to my knowledge, but she never put my feelings in balance with hers, you know...mutual. She had lots of guy friends. She even flirted with the ones she liked (before we started dating), and had been friends with them for a while. And of course this caused friction as I didn't like that she continued to talk to these guys. I mean, she can't remember how may guys she had slept with before me, I mean I know past is past, but this is....jut a bit extreme? Apparently I was at least her 23rd partner. I mean, girls, please answer...is this normal? Have I been oblivious to this all my life? I just need someone to say, wake up dude, she is f*cked up.
Dexter Morgan Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 To the point. Im no longer with this girl but I never wanted to believe this: She had sex with 17 guys before her 17th birthday some while drunk, most of them casual. She is 22 now and the number is obviously higher. This is actually true. If it walks like duck, quacks like a duck... Am I right? It never sat right with me. Am I being too sensitive? Someone knock some sense into me and say "woa wtf!?" you want it str8? Old Dex has never been anything but. So here it goes. Everyone has a past and I can see 17 people in a lifetime or maybe by the time you are 30. but 17 before 17? In the immortal words of Santa......well....you know.
Dasilva Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Get away from her my friend, although you dont know shes cheating on you, its almost guaranteed in my eyes. Just leave and never look back.
LisaUk Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I'm 33 and a women and I've had 1, yes just 1, that's the way I wanted it to be my whole life if possible, but unfortunately after 18 years together he's gone, so ?
Missing Soul Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 To the point. Im no longer with this girl but I never wanted to believe this: She had sex with 17 guys before her 17th birthday some while drunk, most of them casual. She is 22 now and the number is obviously higher. This is actually true. If it walks like duck, quacks like a duck... Am I right? It never sat right with me. Am I being too sensitive? Someone knock some sense into me and say "woa wtf!?"quack quack
guitarplayer1234 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I wonder what kind of diseases she is carrying...
Author abouttoloseit Posted June 27, 2009 Author Posted June 27, 2009 Ha, she told me she had been to the health clinic. She didn't have anything. I wore condoms for the initial part of our relatiosnhip. Thank heavens.
MichiganMan222 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 Damn, do you have to tie a board to your ass so you don't fall in?? When did she START having sex? Let's assume as early as 15. In 24 months-17 guys....almost one a month. How could you possibly not think she will cheat on you if she isn't already? How could sex possibly be intimate with someone like that?
Author abouttoloseit Posted June 29, 2009 Author Posted June 29, 2009 Damn, do you have to tie a board to your ass so you don't fall in?? When did she START having sex? Let's assume as early as 15. In 24 months-17 guys....almost one a month. How could you possibly not think she will cheat on you if she isn't already? How could sex possibly be intimate with someone like that? Exactly what I thought. Eventually our sex life ran to a halt. I would have asumed it got better as she said she was happy with me. Sex once in 3 months is what it turned out to be. Ahwell, Im just another number on her list. As is she on mine She lost her virginity at 14. In spain, the legal age is 14. I know she never cheated on me, but I always knew sex was just...meh. It was great at the start. But I always felt...distant from her, even when I was trying to ...um, do everything else that wasn't sex eg, going out, hugging, talking, planning things etc... Does it help her mother is just as bad (actually worse?).
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Straight up? She is insecure and feels powerless. That is why she uses sex for (perceived) power, and violence when that doesn't get her what she wants. Her behavior doesn't say 'healthy appetite for lots of sex'. Her behavior says 'unhealthy need for validation'. So, why the paradox of the 'slut' who goes dry in a relationship? Because girls like her separate sex and love. For her, sex is not something you do with someone you love. That's why the boyfriend is denied, and the random guys she cheats with get porno sex. It is a way to gain power and degrade herself at the same time - nothing more, nothing less. My mother was also the same way - but the 'mother' isn't the connection. Her father was cold and distant and so was mine. The thing that caught their attention most was their wives (sex), so on some level we were both looking to capture that attention that we saw our fathers give to our mothers. She lashes out at you physically as another subconscious way to get 'daddy's' attention. It is twisted and Electra-fied, but many girls who had cold and distant fathers end up this way. Some take it a step further by seeking out married men as partners in a way to 'stick it to mother (wife)' and steal attention. I was the same way. You grow out of it eventually. At least some do. Some go on to have healthy sexual appetites (like yours truly), and can function sexually in a legit relationship. Others... not so. Some continue on in that way right up until they are too old for men to want anymore. Then their purpose fades, and so then do they.
Author abouttoloseit Posted June 29, 2009 Author Posted June 29, 2009 Straight up? My mother was also the same way - but the 'mother' isn't the connection. Her father was cold and distant and so was mine. The thing that caught their attention most was their wives (sex), so on some level we were both looking to capture that attention that we saw our fathers give to our mothers. She lashes out at you physically as another subconscious way to get 'daddy's' attention. I was the same way. You grow out of it eventually. At least some do. Some go on to have healthy sexual appetites (like yours truly), and can function sexually in a legit relationship. Others... not so. Some continue on in that way right up until they are too old for men to want anymore. Then their purpose fades, and so then do they. OMG, it's like you just wrote everything about her in one. Her dad walked out on the family by cheating on her mother (long time ago). Divorced since, and has never had anytime for her(my ex). Her dad had recently thrown her out of her house aswell becasue "he didn't have time for her". Her dad was an arse. When you meant "yours truly", who did you mean? My girlfriend I asumed, seemed fine sexually for the first 3 months. Then she just went off the idea of sex. And from what I gather, it happened in her other relationships. None of them lasted more than a year, our relationship lasted 18 months.
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