jj33 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Whenever people end a relationship or you are doing NC and you feel weak or anxious or wonder about the other person, people always say, you need to focus on yourself. When you are in the midst of it, at least for me, it seems like that is just a cliche. Of course you want to focus on yourself but your mind keeps going to the other person. After so much back and forth and wasted energy I finally got to a point where I just dont care. I resent having to spend time and energy dealing with the whole thing. I hope this feeling of indifference stays with me.
ladydesigner Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I second that thought. I am soooooooo over these feelings of why this? and why that? I'm over him... I'm not over him. I am so over it. i really am. It really was a hard journey for me to get to this point. Of course my OM probably was over it in an instant and I was the one to suffer, but not anymore. I will never ever be in this position again. I really hope my OM will one day receive these same feelings that I have gone through.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 When you feel the pain of a breakup, go with it and grieve for a bit. Don't deny it, it is a part of the healing process.
StoptheDrama Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 JJ, I'm jealous... I'm happy for you that you feel this way and I truly hope that it stays with you. You're healing and moving on. I can't wait until I can say the same and mean it for more than a day...
Author jj33 Posted June 26, 2009 Author Posted June 26, 2009 Well its been 2 days and I still feel this way. Finally after years of being reactive to every little provocation. I think this will stick. He is shocked. I think he thinks I am a bit insane -- I mean how could I possibly change my stance when I have been pining over him for so long.... I have waited for this day for so long. Yipee! All i can say is it happens when it happens. I only wish it had happened sooner. And I feel a bit of a fraud all the "advice" i wrote others since I joined LS saying move on forget about him etc etc when I wasnt able to move on in my heart as much as I wanted to. I had thought the fact that I ended the PA was enough. But it wasnt. I was still holding on in my heart and inexplicably unable to let go. But I have to thank all of you. reading the stories day and night it finally clicked. Finally finally the day has come for me too!
CAMAYPARK Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 JJ, its all part of the process, relearning to repriotise yourself.
me003 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Could not agree. I have the same feeling and still I wish that I could totally get him out of my system. I know he is no good. I know there is no future, no matter what he says. If there would be a future, it would be on his terms. The feelings for him are not as strong and I don't completely melt like I did 3 years ago or even 1 year ago. I just want to be able to wake up one day and SOON, and be strong enough to just be able to ignore his advances.
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