wow123 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I was just thinking about this today and felt like I should post it for those who see a break up coming or are currently going through a breakup. There are many things we should not do that the dumper will use against you and kill chances of reconciliation. 1. Do Not Smother them with Phone Calls Texts 2. Do not act needy 3. Do not fight with them no matter what! You need to keep everything positive if you want a second chance. I probably killed mine by doing all 3 of these but hopefully I can help others by not making the same mistakes.
bluesky123 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I have done all three, one sweet email with a vague reply and one phone with no answer. I was very respectful during my breakup and I have yet to hear anything and doubt I will.
Author wow123 Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 Did you breakup or were broken up with?
skreen23 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Ididn't break any of those 3 rules and my ex is still freaked by me.
Beeotch Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Keep in mind that...not doing those things doesn't guarantee anything. It is best not to do them to help yourself and the situation, however; a lot of breakups are FINAL...and have nothing to do with what you did/didn't do. So the best thing is to move on....what is to be will be...don't spend all your time trying to win them back and all that esp if they broke up with you. Express your desire and leave them be...what happens next is out of your hands. Keep your dignity and if they want you, that opportunity will arise and they will be proactvie about it.
asuman Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I was just thinking about this today and felt like I should post it for those who see a break up coming or are currently going through a breakup. There are many things we should not do that the dumper will use against you and kill chances of reconciliation. 1. Do Not Smother them with Phone Calls Texts 2. Do not act needy 3. Do not fight with them no matter what! You need to keep everything positive if you want a second chance. I probably killed mine by doing all 3 of these but hopefully I can help others by not making the same mistakes. I don't know what got into me, maybe its my being older (30s), but I obeyed all these rules and feel damn good about it, even as I go through my mood swings. She told me she didn't think we would work long-term. I didn't even ask her why. I just told her I really enjoyed getting to know her and prepared to say bye and hang up. But she actually chimed in and said, "I feel the same way. We can definitely hang out if you want." I told her I had feelings for her so I don't think that would be a good idea right now. And that was it. She hasn't heard a word from me since. Not a peep. I'm intent on moving on. I'm not really concerned with what must be going through her mind right now. But I can tell you what is NOT going through her mind: "Wow, what a jerk, he just proved why I made the right decision." "This guy is pathetic." "This guy is desperate." "I wish he would leave me alone." If she ever changes her mind about me, I've made it a hell of a lot easier for her to do so. There is simply and literally not one negative, bad, stressful thing that has ever happened between us or said to one another. We had a good time together and it ended calmly and peacefully.
motive2002 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I've learned that if you give them enough rope, they WILL hang you with it. If you are breaking up the best advice I can give is shut the hell up, don't respond to any texts, e-mails etc and go 100% NC. It's for your own good. Trust me for I speak the absolute truth!!!!!
bluesky123 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I got dumped. One night everything was normal the next morning she didnt love me, 2 1/2 years. Out of left field, our break was full of emotions I love and respect that girl too much to be rude or mean to her. I know her so well, and she's not coming back !
D-Lish Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Ididn't break any of those 3 rules and my ex is still freaked by me. lol....:lmao::lmao:
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