Valedico Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 When do you know that there will be no second chance? How many months after a break up do you throw the towel in and call it quits? Its been 4 months for me and im pritty posetive its over, i tried my best but i have stopped contacting her.
banser123 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I guess it depends on the situation and why you broke up. Who initiated the break up? Sometimes people need time to think and be alone. 4 months doesnt mean its over but I would need to know more information to guess better
carhill Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Backstory: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t191885/ It *should* be over. IMO, be thankful that it is, learn from it and use that experience to have better relationships in the future.
samspade Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 When someone dumps someone else, it's over. That decision isn't made lightly or by mistake. You only think it's not "over for good" because you're lying to yourself.
Sevenscars Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 4 months, if no contact, is pretty over. It really depends I guess, but if there was no positive contact, then I would say it's done for good. Either way, a break up is still a break up.
Battlewax Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 When someone dumps someone else, it's over. That decision isn't made lightly or by mistake. You only think it's not "over for good" because you're lying to yourself. Not necessarily, the thing is far too many people think, "It's not over, when it really should be."
Nuala83 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 When do you know that there will be no second chance? How many months after a break up do you throw the towel in and call it quits? Its been 4 months for me and im pritty posetive its over, i tried my best but i have stopped contacting her. I think it takes longer than 4 months to know for (fairly) certain that there wont be a second chance. Some people get back together after 4 months or 8 months or a couple of years...or not at all. If it's hurt you too much to maintain contact it's probably best that you've stopped.
CaliGuy Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 If someone who is "supposed" to love you can walk away from you, it's over. At least, that is the way you have to look at it. The longer you cling to the hope of a second chance, the longer it will take for your life to get back on track.
Author Valedico Posted June 27, 2009 Author Posted June 27, 2009 Well we have been broken up for 4 months, had positive contact for 2 months, and then she got cold and distant, negative contact for a month, she stopped contacting me and i did LC she would keep the reply's very short and cold and now i have been NC for almost month, the last contact we had wasent positive at all. I told her it hurts to much to hear from her or see picture of her on facebook and that i am going to stop contacting her and delete her from facebook so i can heal and try to get over her, shen never replied back. Does my head in how she changed from being infatuated with me and now im nothing to her anymore. I swear it happened over night, and i know theres no one else we have mutual friends who would tell me. Damn i screwed up, oh well guess my life is going to suck for a while until i get this woman out of my system, you live and you learn.
Author Valedico Posted June 27, 2009 Author Posted June 27, 2009 oh and it didnt help that one lonely night, before i went no contact i sent her a text and called her by her nickname i gave her when we were 2gether and told her how much i missed her just wanted to test and c if she still cared, she doesent give a ****! She was pissed off! i WONT contact her ever again, ive lost all my dignity and self respect she must think i am a loser now. Time to put the tombstone on this relationship its dead.
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