wattodo Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Hey guys, I just wanted to ask if anyone has any tips for me. I love my man...loads, an i know he loves me, but ue to working 12hrs a day 13/14 days, i feel a bit neglected, how do I remind him that I still need random texts/hugs etc, an pressies such as mags and choc, or am i just being selfish. I know he's working hard for our benefit but im afraid that when hes finished working so har he'll have forgotten how he used to treat me. I'm thinking of writing my thoughts, as I dont want to broach the subject when hes tired, dont want for the two of us to be upset!! xxx
dunstable Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Hi feel a bit neglected, how do I remind him that I still need random texts/hugs etc, an pressies such as mags and choc, or am i just being selfish. No, I don't think you are being selfish but he may not see those things as important. He might reason that you can buy mags and chocs for yourself. Random texts may not be on his mind when he's working hard and is going to see you at the end of the day anyway. Asking for these gestures directly would probably be counterproductive. The best way would be by example -- send him random texts and have little presents for him when he has finished a long day working on behalf of you both. Maybe he will get the hint. If he doesn't, you may need to explain (gently and in a good humored way) your need for romantic tokens. But don't make a big thing of it. If he starts obliging you because you're pressurizing him, then his actions will be hollow rather than sincere and that's probably not what you want.
mammax3 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I read somewhere (maybe here?) that the type of behaviour you display is the type of behaviour you get back. What if you sent him little texts and picked up little things he likes, gave him little hugs. That way he can say "I liked it when you sent that Love You while I was working today, it made me think of you and my day was a little better." He's working hard, and some men work hard to show love to their SO, so asking for more concrete displays may stress him out and cause him to wonder "How many texts am I supposed to send? What if I can't pick up chocolate one night? Is there a measurement system that will be in place?"
solo_flyer Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Maybe you can ask him what things you can do for him that he would find romantic.
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