slaying_ice Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I went on a date with this girl a few nights ago and she dropped a bomb on me a few hours before we went on the date, asking me if it was alright if we did a double date. At the time I didn't think anything of it but now I know it is a big no-no to do this on the first date. To say the least, it was very awkward for me because I didn't really know the other two people so I generally kept quiet. It has been about four days since the date and I haven't contacted her since then. One of my friends talks to her and I think bad things were said. Now I understand that I probably did blow my chance but there must be someway to recover from this. I was thinking of sending her a text message trying to see if I could get a second date but I don't know exactly what to say. Please help! What do i do now?
NoTNorMal Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 You didn't do anything wrong! If you didn't know the other people, she should have made an extra effort to include you. Have you considered the posibility that they may have done drugs together and you didn't know it? Let her sit awhile and see what happens, I'd never get in a hurry.
MissHollywood Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 One of my friends talks to her and I think bad things were said. What bad things? You mean she said bad things to your friend about you? Did she try to include you in the conversation? It sounds like she was hanging out more with her two friends than you. Maybe after knowing what transpired between her and your friend will you have a better idea of what to do next.
Author slaying_ice Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 My friend told me to just "give up because it probably isn't going much further" But my problem with this is that I d idn't even do anything wrong or completely out of the ordinary. I just have no clue what to do.
NoTNorMal Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 It might be that she likes someone else and there is nothing you can do about it.
hitzpink Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Hmmm I think it would be ok to text her and ask her for a second date, explaining that you're sorry if you were a bit quiet/shy on the first date but that you felt a little uncomfortable being the only one there who didn't know anybody. I think it's weird that she made it into a double date, although I guess she could have been really nervous & wanted some moral support..
Chicago_Guy Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I think that this woman screwed you over by making you do a double date. I would move on - if she were really interested in you, she would not have asked for the double date a few hours before you were supposed to have your first one-on-one date.
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