13arkansas Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Date no 4 with a guy last night - he is really nice and we have been getting along very well. We're both late 30's. Things seemed to be good - he bought me champagne, conversation flowed well, very affectioniate, he stayed over...he was very cuddly and affectionate in the morning, but in between these are 2 possible issues: 1 made a minor faux pas on my side (a minor etiquette thing that I should have known - sounds like a small thing, but he's a very cultured guy so don't know if it would bother him) - we're from similar backgrounds in terms of private education, good family, etc although I'd say generally he is from more of a 'society' set than me, which is why I don't know how bothered he'd be by this kinda stuff. Anyway the 2nd thing was that when we were in bed, he asked if I was ready to take it another step and to sleep together and I said yes...but (for whatever reason, possibly champagne!) he couldn't really manage to after the 1st few seconds. It's obviously not how I wanted out 1st time to be!-but whatever...if we carry on dating there'll be plenty of time to fix that kind of thing. But I think he may have been embarrassed....but by the time the morning came around and we woke up he was v.affectioniate again. My question is, do I have anything to worry about here? Apart from those 2 incidences, he was complementary, affectionate, etc etc...but could a guy be so embarrased by problem no 2 that he might be reticent to see me again, and could a point of etiquette really cause an issue? I'm just looking for outside opinions here as it's hard to be objective! Especially as today I am sufferig from sleep deprivation and a small hangover from last evenings date
NoTNorMal Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 If he were a real man and intended on marrying you, he should have licked on you until you were blue first, then you would have nothing to complain about. Maybe you should take him to training camp.
Author 13arkansas Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 Okay maybe not quite the advice I was looking for, tho to be fair he shined in that particular department as it happens It just sucked that our 1st time wasn't so great...but none of this sounds like anything I should be worrying about? Any other thoughts?
NoTNorMal Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 If he shined in that department why wasn't the first time great? :mad:Unless he's never tried that, like me. Old chinese saying, tastes like blue chicken.
Author 13arkansas Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 Well that's the funny thing, chemistry is great, he is very into pleasing me, etc (he's great at that and seems to love stimulating me in whatever way I like), so no problems there. But the first actual time we tried to have sex, y'know, it didn't go so well! He actually said it was because he hates the feeling of a condom which basically made him have problems performing, but was wearing one as it is v.important to be responsible etc, and I thought that was just an excuse because the alcohol had affected him or something, but from speaking to a coupla friends they said that wearing condoms can sometimes affect a guys performance? But I also didn't know if I needed to do a bit of firefighting if he might be leaving feeling like crap about it, etc? Lol, and tastes like blue chicken? I don't really understand, but it sounds gross!
bean1 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 It is pretty common for a guy to have trouble the first time, whether it be alcohol, nerves (most likely), or some sort of astrological moon alignment. It it not unusual. It's no big deal, you just pick up again.
Author 13arkansas Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 Appreciate your responses...looks like I might not have too much to worry aobut then...I'd quite like to actually suggest that if we're dating and he doesn't enjoy condoms (neither do I but we're responsible), then I'm actually ok with going on the pill, and then it won't be an issue (I did this before in a serious R and I'm personally happier to do this than use condoms)...but is it way too early in the day datingwise to bring this up?
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