BobSacamento Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 As the title suggests. If it's a 6 month relationship does it take 3 months?
asuman Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 As the title suggests. If it's a 6 month relationship does it take 3 months? There's no set time. In my experience, my get-over-it time is prolonged when I fail to follow NC. Stay busy, put yourself out there and improve your life. Avoid thinking about her and dwelling on her. Impossible tasks at first. With each day it slowly becomes easier.
D-Lish Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Some of the most painful break ups have been the intense, shorter ones. I remember pining for a guy for over a year after only dating him for three months. I have heard the general rule that it takes half the time of your total relationship to recover... I don't know. My marriage break down was the worst break up of my life. Together about 9 years in total... It didn't take me 5 years to get over loving him... but it probably took me that long to get "right" again.
DarkestDreams Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 The first time I heard this rule, that it takes half the time of your total relationship to recover, was in Sex and in the city, so I take it with a grain of salt. I think short-term relationships tend to be more painful because you didn't have enough time to see the less appealing side of the other person. You only have the good times in mind, so it's hard to move on. I don't think there are any set rules, it depends on so many factors that it's impossible to reach a common denominator.
NopeNah Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I think short-term relationships tend to be more painful because you didn't have enough time to see the less appealing side of the other person. You only have the good times in mind, so it's hard to move on. I would say TRUE to that.. I'm almost 4mo. in to my breakup ,5+yrs relationship and have moved on. It's all you can do for yourself.
Dreaming69 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I completely agree with DarkestDreams Definately no set guidlines to this, so dont beleive that rule it takes half the time of the relationship to get over them. I have literally moved on in a matter of weeks after many 1-2 year relationships. However my last one was short but very intense for 9 months, fell very hard for her, and it ended very ubruptly. Its been over 3 months now and Im not even close to getting her out of my system. Infact for the first time in my life I dont feel I will fully get over the loss of this relationship. Shes like a splinter in my brain. Just depends how much they meant to you..
aboynamedmike Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 The first time I heard this rule, that it takes half the time of your total relationship to recover, was in Sex and in the city, so I take it with a grain of salt. phew, if that was true, i would be in hell for year. no way! it all seems like it would depend on the girl, situation, reasons for breaking up...
asuman Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I completely agree with DarkestDreams Definately no set guidlines to this, so dont beleive that rule it takes half the time of the relationship to get over them. I have literally moved on in a matter of weeks after many 1-2 year relationships. However my last one was short but very intense for 9 months, fell very hard for her, and it ended very ubruptly. Its been over 3 months now and Im not even close to getting her out of my system. Infact for the first time in my life I dont feel I will fully get over the loss of this relationship. Shes like a splinter in my brain. Just depends how much they meant to you.. You WILL fully get over this relationship. I promise you. You just need to give it time. Your emotions work slowly, they don't react like pushing a button to make them go on and off. They will gradually come to accept that it is truly over, and that that's ok, life goes on, you'll find someone else. Just give yourself time. Use this negative energy within you to improve your life.
Author BobSacamento Posted June 27, 2009 Author Posted June 27, 2009 I should be totally honest I guess. My intentions are slightly evil in nature. Currently I am waiting out a few relationships. So I wanted to get an idea of when it's appropriate to make a move if those relationships break up.
Nuala83 Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 The first time I heard this rule, that it takes half the time of your total relationship to recover, was in Sex and in the city Oh god don't let it be true! If it is, I've got another 3.5 years ahead of me!!! Haha I know it isn't true
Exit Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I'm 10 weeks into a breakup after 1.5 years and still miss her and want her back, but not exactly crying my eyes out about it anymore. I've been forcing myself to go out with friends more than ever, trying to overcome my "loner" tendencies, and I know I will be ok if I continue to remind myself that there are other people who care about me.
Sweetcheripie Posted June 27, 2009 Posted June 27, 2009 I should be totally honest I guess. My intentions are slightly evil in nature. Currently I am waiting out a few relationships. So I wanted to get an idea of when it's appropriate to make a move if those relationships break up. Sorry but that made me laugh! I don't think it is a good idea to wait those out. Then you will be the rebound guy or the friend guy.
asuman Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 I should be totally honest I guess. My intentions are slightly evil in nature. Currently I am waiting out a few relationships. So I wanted to get an idea of when it's appropriate to make a move if those relationships break up. There's something seriously wrong with this strategy. You don't see that? Why are you only interested in girls who are unavailable to you? Something to talk to a counselor about, to be honest. Psychoanalysis aside, don't you think you have better prospects with girls who are, you know, single?
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