lora22 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Well I agree it releases tension.......but it also ruins the moment....theres like a select moment where girls just scream out " kiss me. " I wont go for a kiss unless the person is screaming it out in what I can tell, I won't enjoy it if it feels forced. For me the biggest pointer is their eyes. When you use humour it does make them feel comfortable due to laughing but at the same time the moment kind of vanishes in a way.......Still sounds like you are dating whackos, but if the signs are there next time, dont say anything, just do it. The worst you'll get is what you had before, though I'm pretty sure it won't happen I don't disagree that this is good advice; it is, and maybe especially in a more general way. But I think this depends on the girl too. So personally, I would love a smartass/funny/whatever comment that made me laugh before a kiss. It would make me feel closer to the guy, and like we had some kind of connection, so I'd be more into a kiss than otherwise (possibly).
runner Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 hmm, being funny is all nice and well on your date. but i find that drifting the conversation in a way that makes her feel beautiful and desired makes for a better atmosphere leading up to that kiss.
alphamale Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Ok this has been done before but I think it would be interesting to note some of the moves the LS women out there use and also what hints the LS men may have picked up. - "Hey let me walk you to the door" line. This seems like just a nice gesture but it is a really good move. If the women wants to get a kiss it would be a good move to say sure thanks. If not - "Don't worry I got it" will suffice. - The after dinner lip gloss application. This was a fantastic indicator a woman used on me twice. She put it on for our first kiss (minty). And our second. When I saw her put it on the second time my mind went "Bingo". you're one observant fellow BS
lora22 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 hmm, being funny is all nice and well on your date. but i find that drifting the conversation in a way that makes her feel beautiful and desired makes for a better atmosphere leading up to that kiss. Yeah, that's probably the most fool-proof way to go.
Stark Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I don't disagree that this is good advice; it is, and maybe especially in a more general way. But I think this depends on the girl too. So personally, I would love a smartass/funny/whatever comment that made me laugh before a kiss. It would make me feel closer to the guy, and like we had some kind of connection, so I'd be more into a kiss than otherwise (possibly). Well I'm not saying don't be funny....but when it comes to the kiss. There's a moment where girls just scream it out if they want it. If you use humour, they'll laugh, giggle etc and go back to wanting mode......but at the same time the 100% desire is replaced with about 70% desire, 20% more comfortable, 10% impatience ......(not to scale but you get the gyst). 100% Desire is when you want to give it......not only that but you are taking control, you see the need and you grab it, and it excites them rather than easing into it. May not be true but one thing I've always been complimented on no matter the girl is the fact that I'm a great kisser, and a good part of it is the timing of a kiss.
lora22 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 100% Desire is when you want to give it......not only that but you are taking control, you see the need and you grab it, and it excites them rather than easing into it. This is very true; I find it incredibly sexy when a guy goes for it like that, and if he gets the timing just right it's pretty amazing too. HOWEVER, there's not always that "perfect" moment, at least not in my experience.
butcher's hook Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Well I agree it releases tension.......but it also ruins the moment....theres like a select moment where girls just scream out " kiss me. " No way!!! Humour is great. Nothing beats totally vibing with someone and you are laughing and having a good time and then he reaches over and plays with your hair and we just have an extended moment of looking at each other and we are still sort of grinning from what we were laughing at and he goes in for the kill. It's AWESOME! And when I say humour I don't mean "so a Mexican a Polish and a Rabbi walk into a bar...", I mean witty banter.
runner Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 it should also be noted that when she's already in 'wanting mode,' she'll just about laugh and giggle at all the lame, brain-dead jokes that you tell. so here's an exercise: tell the lamest one you can think of, and if she reacts as if she just downed a bottle of champagne, well, the rest is up to you.
butcher's hook Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 it should also be noted that when she's already in 'wanting mode,' she'll just about laugh and giggle at all the lame, brain-dead jokes that you tell. so here's an exercise: tell the lamest one you can think of, and if she reacts as if she just downed a bottle of champagne, well, the rest is up to you. SO true!! I like your style runner every post you made was bang on, I think you get women! Well this woman at least.
Isolde Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I just can't emphasize enough that most women aren't going to initiate this. I mean, if the attempt ends up awkwardly, why would you want to be dating her anyway? And if it turns out well, then you've essentially begun to woo the girl. I admit that we ladies could sometimes do a better job of giving the lads the green light. Problem is, we get just as nervous as you do.
Stark Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 No way!!! Humour is great. Nothing beats totally vibing with someone and you are laughing and having a good time and then he reaches over and plays with your hair and we just have an extended moment of looking at each other and we are still sort of grinning from what we were laughing at and he goes in for the kill. It's AWESOME! And when I say humour I don't mean "so a Mexican a Polish and a Rabbi walk into a bar...", I mean witty banter. Well, like I said, it may/may not be true. But if a girl wants me to kiss her, I'll show her affection and go to kiss her and build the tension up that way. I don't usually say anything, but I do show it in my actions. I mean humour is "cute" and everything, but I don't want to be cute at that particular moment, I want her going home quivering over that kiss, not smiling at it ;p. There are times for speaking and time for doing, and I've found the better approach is to take it and do it good rather than build up to it.
runner Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 SO true!! I like your style runner every post you made was bang on, I think you get women! Well this woman at least. banging is just so much fun. even on LS
butcher's hook Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Well, like I said, it may/may not be true. But if a girl wants me to kiss her, I'll show her affection and go to kiss her and build the tension up that way. I don't usually say anything, but I do show it in my actions. I mean humour is "cute" and everything, but I don't want to be cute at that particular moment, I want her going home quivering over that kiss, not smiling at it ;p. There are times for speaking and time for doing, and I've found the better approach is to take it and do it good rather than build up to it. But what you described sounds like you actually build it up!?!? Unless I am misunderstanding? I don't know, I prefer all natural, none of this "Rico Suave" act preparing for the "perfect kiss". Any time I've gone home with whobbly knees we were usually having a great time and just general ease and laughing right up until the kiss, as soon as the kiss strats no one is laughing. Except maybe in the end when we come up for air and exclaim "Wow!!" and then laugh it off. banging is just so much fun. even on LS "Oohhhr yeah baaabyyy"
EddieN Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Well I agree it releases tension.......but it also ruins the moment....theres like a select moment where girls just scream out " kiss me. " I wont go for a kiss unless the person is screaming it out in what I can tell, I won't enjoy it if it feels forced. For me the biggest pointer is their eyes. When you use humour it does make them feel comfortable due to laughing but at the same time the moment kind of vanishes in a way.......Still sounds like you are dating whackos, but if the signs are there next time, dont say anything, just do it. The worst you'll get is what you had before, though I'm pretty sure it won't happen Keep in mind these are young girls (18-20). It has happened a total of 3 times, and each one of these girls has a quite a story. Every other first kiss I've had has either been a goodbye kiss initiated by me or just initiated by the girl at any time, and whenever it was initiated by the girl I was like, "WOAH! That was fast!" ie I wasn't thinking about kissing her at the moment. I'm still waiting to find a girl where I can go out with her, look her in the eye, and just go in for it and be successful. I would like that a lot more.
Stark Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Keep in mind these are young girls (18-20). It has happened a total of 3 times, and each one of these girls has a quite a story. Every other first kiss I've had has either been a goodbye kiss initiated by me or just initiated by the girl at any time, and whenever it was initiated by the girl I was like, "WOAH! That was fast!" ie I wasn't thinking about kissing her at the moment. I'm still waiting to find a girl where I can go out with her, look her in the eye, and just go in for it and be successful. I would like that a lot more. Well I don't doubt your game plan. From the above posters it seems as if some don't mind humour. I still think my way is the best to go for the kiss that will haunt the woman until next time instead of just a good kiss, but then I'm 90% sure it's whackos yer dating if they are displaying signs and then pull back when you go for it. Oh well better luck in the future ;p
DaGmen Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I am defnitely one of the "shy" type guys. I have to get really strong signals before I make a move. The rejection fear and the thought of a slap in the face just causes me to be overly cautious! I have gone out on 3 dates with this lady I really really like! I would love to give her a kiss but so far all we have done is hug. The hugs have become more intense and with more feeling with each date. Based on what people have written here, I should have kissed her already. She has already done a few of the signals people have suggested on here...Lip gloss after the meal and during the date...touching my hand, soft punching me when something funny was said or shared. One thing we have not had is any kind of extended look into each others eyes.
Stark Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 But what you described sounds like you actually build it up!?!? Unless I am misunderstanding? Well I don't go outright for it as in " she wants me to kiss I'll just kiss her" I'll tease her in a way that I know that she knows she wants it, and that she knows I know she wants it. Oftimes in these situations the best words to speak are silence and just let the action to the talking. I don't dive in like a dive bomber, I'm just merely saying that I don't ease the tension with humour, it creates an atmosphere of tension and passion combined which makes the kiss all that much more irresistable. I'm not talking romantic or over the top here, I just mean a way of making the kiss seem that much more better than humour and some tongue action and not playing on a cliche romantic type. Sex always starts with kissing usually so if you learn to get good at it you can arouse woman just with how you kiss.
Bayern Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Just a reminder: Don't take everything said here as the rule for every female. Don't freak out when they don't touch you or get all giggly - it may just not be her style. Kiss her anyway
IcemanJB Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I'm with carhill on this one. I've never used a "formula" for deciding when to kiss a girl, and I never will. I've said it many many times here, just go with your gut/instincts. For me, this alarm just goes off in my head where I know the time is right to move in. Maybe I'm tuned in to her actions/words without really realizing it, but listening to my instincts has NEVER failed me. My all-time favorite was when the "alarm" went off when she was mid-sentence, fumbling over her words; and that was when I moved in for the first kiss. Hands down the best one of my life - and she absolutely loved it! You know, when she has to stop for a few minutes to let her heart settle down.
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