BobSacamento Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Ok this has been done before but I think it would be interesting to note some of the moves the LS women out there use and also what hints the LS men may have picked up. - "Hey let me walk you to the door" line. This seems like just a nice gesture but it is a really good move. If the women wants to get a kiss it would be a good move to say sure thanks. If not - "Don't worry I got it" will suffice. - The after dinner lip gloss application. This was a fantastic indicator a woman used on me twice. She put it on for our first kiss (minty). And our second. When I saw her put it on the second time my mind went "Bingo".
Cora Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Constant eye contact, touching your hand, arm etc.., smiling a lot. Things like that. Well that's what I would think at least. The last guy I dated I just flat out asked him if he wanted to kiss me? He said yeah, so I told him well kiss me then....which he did. That took a lot of courage from me by the way. Anyway, you can usually pick up on little hints like that. You will typically just know when the time is right. Good Luck!
motive2002 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Bedroom eyes. The kind where the head is slightly tilted down while the eyes look up voraciously into yours.
carhill Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 You know, I used to worry about that stuff way too much. Now I just kiss women when I want to. I don't worry about signals. Overwhelmingly, my instincts and desires have been right.
lora22 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I like confident men who take charge when it comes to things related to sex, including kissing, so I rarely need to send signals. If I want to kiss a guy and he's not making a move I don't "hint" at it or try to give signals (really not into games and ambiguity), I just make the first move and kiss him.
Citizen Erased Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I usually just kiss the guy first. I think it's usually a pretty good indication I want to be kissed. And guys are easy to read, if they're looking at my boobs chances are a kiss isn't unwelcome.
Isolde Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I usually just kiss the guy first. I think it's usually a pretty good indication I want to be kissed. And guys are easy to read, if they're looking at my boobs chances are a kiss isn't unwelcome. But, CE, isn't it risky? I feel like only the shyest of the shy would require this level of initiative.
Author BobSacamento Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 You know, I used to worry about that stuff way too much. Now I just kiss women when I want to. I don't worry about signals. Overwhelmingly, my instincts and desires have been right. We aren't all a relic like yourself
EddieN Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I like confident men who take charge when it comes to things related to sex, including kissing, so I rarely need to send signals. If I want to kiss a guy and he's not making a move I don't "hint" at it or try to give signals (really not into games and ambiguity), I just make the first move and kiss him. Every time I went in for a kiss and got rejected, the girl flipped the hell out. It's not like I tried to kiss a girl within the first few minutes of talking either. Each time the girl was sending good signals - close to me, looking at me deeply, looking down at my lips (I think), touching me...then when I slyly said something witty and tried to kiss the girl backed off and flipped out saying that she wasn't ready. Everything went to hell after that. Hence why I'm reluctant. If I'm getting no signals from a girl, there's no way I'm going to try to kiss.
lora22 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Every time I went in for a kiss and got rejected, the girl flipped the hell out. It's not like I tried to kiss a girl within the first few minutes of talking either. Each time the girl was sending good signals - close to me, looking at me deeply, looking down at my lips (I think), touching me...then when I slyly said something witty and tried to kiss the girl backed off and flipped out saying that she wasn't ready. Everything went to hell after that. Hence why I'm reluctant. If I'm getting no signals from a girl, there's no way I'm going to try to kiss. Wow, that sounds so bizarre to me! What's wrong with these girls??? If I'm doing those things, I'm definitely into the guy and would welcome a kiss! Either way; if a guy wants to kiss me but is reluctant or shy or whatever, then me getting it out of the way solves that problem for the future
zhsoj Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I simply asked... *shrug* Pride has never really served me well.
Citizen Erased Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 But, CE, isn't it risky? I feel like only the shyest of the shy would require this level of initiative. It's probably risky but I've certainly never been rejected. Shy guys, confident guys etc it doesn't matter.
EddieN Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Wow, that sounds so bizarre to me! What's wrong with these girls??? If I'm doing those things, I'm definitely into the guy and would welcome a kiss! Either way; if a guy wants to kiss me but is reluctant or shy or whatever, then me getting it out of the way solves that problem for the future Yeah, well as you may expect after these incidents I began to see their true colors...aka they were nuts. A lot of girls here are nuts though.
carhill Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 We aren't all a relic like yourself LOL, it's just nice to see that the lips and the equipment downstairs are still connected
lora22 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Yeah, well as you may expect after these incidents I began to see their true colors...aka they were nuts. A lot of girls here are nuts though. I hate to break it to you, but most girls fall somewhere along the spectrum of "nuts."
EddieN Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I hate to break it to you, but most girls fall somewhere along the spectrum of "nuts." Oh I know, and I like a little but a nuts, but I'm talking about the FAR FAR end of the spectrum.
lora22 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Oh I know, and I like a little but a nuts, but I'm talking about the FAR FAR end of the spectrum. LOL sorry but I can't stop laughing about this. I just have this image in my head of some girl on a date with a guy, and sending him all kinds of signals, so he tries to kiss her, and she flips out, and it's HYSTERICAL. I guess I just don't know many girls that are THAT crazy. But back on topic. If I try to "send signals" before making a move myself, it'll be things like touching the guy, getting into his personal space, stuff like that. I'm into lipstick (not bright lipstick, but it's still lipstick), so if I want a guy to kiss me, I'll use chapstick or balm instead of sticky gloss or lipstick....
Author BobSacamento Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 Yes personal space is a very good one.
butcher's hook Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I agree with Lora22. I usually smack on lip gloss or lipstick (as well not dark colours) when I don't want to be kissed. Makes for a great shield. I don't know guys who like to get all gooped up in gloss when they kiss you. Fruity or minty lip balm is when I do want to be kissed.
runner Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 great thread. if more women posted in here, i bet that would reduce a lot of the traffic on this dating board my favs: prolonged staring; lip balm (yea that was a good one); touching; gravitating closer to me; and generally just wagging her tail as i walk through the door
kiki30 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 When I want a guy to kiss me, I usually give him a kiss on the cheek to break the ice. Then pause...usually he picks up on it...
runner Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 When I want a guy to kiss me, I usually give him a kiss on the cheek to break the ice. Then pause...usually he picks up on it... yep this is good too
Stark Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Every time I went in for a kiss and got rejected, the girl flipped the hell out. It's not like I tried to kiss a girl within the first few minutes of talking either. Each time the girl was sending good signals - close to me, looking at me deeply, looking down at my lips (I think), touching me...then when I slyly said something witty and tried to kiss the girl backed off and flipped out saying that she wasn't ready. Everything went to hell after that. Hence why I'm reluctant. If I'm getting no signals from a girl, there's no way I'm going to try to kiss. Maybe the girls are whack, but you shouldn't need to say something witty, you should just reach out, stroke her hair or face or something and you can tell with those puppy dog eyes wether a girl wants to be kissed or not. Maybe the lines are what puts off? I've found the best technique is not to say anything but just do it. Girls love it when you see it and you take control, when you say something it kind of enforces it and ruins it a bit. Seriously, it really is down to the eyes. If you look at the eyes, you'll see a kind of wanting there, its like they are gleaming diamonds and you're the miner just waiting to snatch them up. I've never had a problem with kissing, it comes up when it comes up and when it does I take control. One thing I do love though is girls that kiss differently. There was one girl I used to be with whos kissing resembled lips slowly , touching, gentle releasing in which it creates a kind of tension sound, and you can just tell after about 3-4 of these and if they widen every time when the times right to use the tongue. Other girls just kiss then in the midst of kissing open their mouths. It's nice when girls kiss different, but I've found the best tip to make them go wild over kissing is not to enforce your own style but adjust to their style except add passion into it. Makes them think you are the perfect kisser. Every girl I've been with so far has said they could kiss me for hours.
EddieN Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Maybe the girls are whack, but you shouldn't need to say something witty, you should just reach out, stroke her hair or face or something and you can tell with those puppy dog eyes wether a girl wants to be kissed or not. Maybe the lines are what puts off? Let me clarify myself - I'm not saying some cheesy pre-meditated line or anything like that. Usually I'll say something a bit sarcastic that makes the girl laugh or giggle. Then I'll smile at her and she'll look at me. Then I'll go in for the kiss, and then things blow up. The "something witty" is more of an affirmation for me that I have this girl's interest by seeing how she responds.
Stark Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Let me clarify myself - I'm not saying some cheesy pre-meditated line or anything like that. Usually I'll say something a bit sarcastic that makes the girl laugh or giggle. Then I'll smile at her and she'll look at me. Then I'll go in for the kiss, and then things blow up. The "something witty" is more of an affirmation for me that I have this girl's interest by seeing how she responds. Well I agree it releases tension.......but it also ruins the moment....theres like a select moment where girls just scream out " kiss me. " I wont go for a kiss unless the person is screaming it out in what I can tell, I won't enjoy it if it feels forced. For me the biggest pointer is their eyes. When you use humour it does make them feel comfortable due to laughing but at the same time the moment kind of vanishes in a way.......Still sounds like you are dating whackos, but if the signs are there next time, dont say anything, just do it. The worst you'll get is what you had before, though I'm pretty sure it won't happen
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