LisaUk Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Hi all Thought a thread about things to do to keep our minds off our exes might help. I know I struggle, go round and round it all in my head, even when I'm out with friends etc. I've heard many of you say the same in other threads. What do you do to take your mind of it? I have only found one thing 100% effective, that's learning to drive (stick shift, here in UK), when I went on my lesson this morning for two hours not one single thought of him, the split or anything. Concentrating so much on not dying I guess! What works for you?
Lyssa Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 thinking about other girls +1 and guys too . In all seriousness, I took up things I've been meaning to. I got back into fencing and never tried archery on a long term basis so I took that one up too. I read a lot so whatever books I had, I re-read them! I love to bake and I went through a phase of baking muffins and cupcakes for my family and friends .
Derek12b Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 This is going to be a great thread. 1) I run 2) I go out and listen to live music 3) I work 4) I go to the gym 5) I go out 6) I go out 7) I go out 8) Always stay on the move
Sufferin_Succotash Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 I am redoing my backyard. New plants and flowers. Built a stone wall. LOTS of manual labor. Works like a charm. Plus I am DEAD tired by the end of the night. Lifting weights helps alot too. I don't like running... too much time to think and that's what I am trying to avoid. Taking up a new hobby works wonders too. I am learning to Scuba gonna go to mexico and scare the fish! Overall, just stay active.
tojaz Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I've been excercising a lot. Making the most of the 40lbs i lost on the "Divorce Diet" Yoga in the morning and an hour walk after work everyday. Lift weights a lot too. Relieves a lot of the stress, and helps me sleep. I read a lot of relationship books. Understanding how it works makes it a lot easier for me. Working around the house helps some, but this was OUR house, so some times it trips me up. Considering buying a guitar and teaching myself to play. Oh yeah, theres this website I'm on a lot, what was it called again?? TOJAZ
carhill Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I'm installing a new shower at my mom's house. Just got the pan mortar done prior to typing this. Combined with the work we've been doing at a friend's beach house (adding a new bathroom), I guess doing construction keeps my mind off of other things. Hanging out with friends helps too. Life goes on
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I go to the gym, keep my house clean, and do yard work. I'm landscaping the week that my kids go to camp, and I have alot of projects at work to put a few extra hours in.
Gunny376 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Get busy and stay busy............................. Right off the top? Exercise first thing in the morning. At least a good hour of so. Jump right out of bed, brush teeth, throw on PT clothes, and either hit the gym (every otherday) or hit the dusty trail. Back to the house, hit the shower, shave, brush teeth again. Look at "To-Do" list ~ always adding something to the do list. Do a minimum of some kind of reading. Learn something new everyday. Work on household chores, the househould. Always something to do. Shopping, paying bills, got to keep moving! Places to go ~ people to see. Check e-mail, post on line, Check weather, CNN (Communist News Network) and FOX news. e-mail/call Mom, Sisters, children, relatives and friends. Go to work. Get your mind on your job and your job on your mind ~ get you mind on your money? And your mind on your job! Get caught up on work, and stoll down to see Mike at the gate and shoot the breeze, laugh and joke and talk about other employees! Read the newspaper and check out the news on TV ~ (I've got one of those kind of jobs) The list is endless!
Gunny376 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I've always got some kind of music going. When I findself really down? I pop in some music they play a lot of at sports events! Always gets me pumped up! I listen to a lot of Sirius radio!
PWSX3 Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 When we first separated I started walking just around the block, then two blocks, then a mile, etc. Then I took up bicycling & joined a bike club & that was the best thing I could do because you meet new people that enjoy the same thing you do. In the winter I went to the gym & again you meet new people. I feel there are so many benefits from working out, you start feeling good, you start losing weight which makes you feel better, it's a good way to meet people that care about there bodies & it helps motivate you to care about you, especially since you have just been dumped. Hiking is another good one, you can make it is easy or hard as you want. When you are in the store, walking down the street say hi to strangers, ask them how there day is going? You never know what will become of just saying hi. Join a church group or take classes, your never to old to learn. Look up old friends, classmates, take up a new hobby or start up that hobby you used to have before you were married. Start living outside your box, start trying new things even if it is eating new foods, listening to different kind of music, explorer things you would never have thought of.
ON MY OWN Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 1) Working out ~ hard and focused ~ went as far as to create a total plan that varies to shock my body into losing the last bit of weight I have been longing to lose. I am concentrating on trading my ex for my new ROCK HARD BODY...that my dear is the sweetest revenge, lol.:laugh: 2) Music ~ Really listen to lyrics, sometimes finding some that completely fit my ex and my scenario, lol. If I ever have a harder time sleeping, play peaceful, relaxing music. 3) Melatonin ~ sleep more peaceful at night, or should I say ATLEAST SLEEP AT ALL !! 4) laugh a lot ~ go through your days being lighthearted about everything, you will find a lot of stuff funny that you may not have before by finding new humor in life. 5) writing poetry ~ therapuetic 6) helping my family and 2 friends families ~ I love to help ppl plus it makes time go by which is ultimately what they say will heal us. 7) read ~ magazines and books that I enjoy. 8) friends ~ take mind off of your heartache - look at it in a different light. 9) make calls or write cards/letters 10) navigate the LOVESHACK ~ you guys are therapuetic ~ I believe we are therapeutic to eachother ~ may put some counselors out of a job, lol.
Gunny376 Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 1) Working out ~ hard and focused ~ went as far as to create a total plan that varies to shock my body into losing the last bit of weight I have been longing to lose. I am concentrating on trading my ex for my new ROCK HARD BODY...that my dear is the sweetest revenge, lol.:laugh: 2) Music ~ Really listen to lyrics, sometimes finding some that completely fit my ex and my scenario, lol. If I ever have a harder time sleeping, play peaceful, relaxing music. 3) Melatonin ~ sleep more peaceful at night, or should I say AT LEAST SLEEP AT ALL !! 4) laugh a lot ~ go through your days being lighthearted about everything, you will find a lot of stuff funny that you may not have before by finding new humor in life. 5) writing poetry ~ therapuetic 6) helping my family and 2 friends families ~ I love to help ppl plus it makes time go by which is ultimately what they say will heal us. 7) read ~ magazines and books that I enjoy. 8) friends ~ take mind off of your heartache - look at it in a different light. 9) make calls or write cards/letters 10) navigate the LOVESHACK ~ you guys are therapuetic ~ I believe we are therapeutic to eachother ~ may put some counselors out of a job, lol. Stuff works! All of the above works!
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Going out, hanging with friends, picking up new hobbies, riding a bike loosing weight, feeling good about myself. Things that are gonna benefit me in the long run. There's always things to do to burn time. Find something that's gonna interest you.
11bgentleman Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Hi all Thought a thread about things to do to keep our minds off our exes might help. I know I struggle, go round and round it all in my head, even when I'm out with friends etc. I've heard many of you say the same in other threads. What do you do to take your mind of it? I have only found one thing 100% effective, that's learning to drive (stick shift, here in UK), when I went on my lesson this morning for two hours not one single thought of him, the split or anything. Concentrating so much on not dying I guess! What works for you? My separation is about to start so I am adding to my list. Gym Run Love Shack Work Guitar Lessons (If my wife leaves her guitar) Fishing Fix my truck.
Pradajunkie Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 well though mine's not technically legal yet, I've been on my own with a boatload of children.... they definately keep me hopping but I workout swim enjoy the weightloss from all my stress teach my children how to cook healthy have the girls over for a little wine or sometimes a lot play soccer, hockey, or whatever sport with my kids focus on the beauty thats around me every day and I pray.... lately I pray a whole lot
tojaz Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Cocaine and guns. :eek: O.K. No more advice from TIY:eek::eek:
Author LisaUk Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 :eek: O.K. No more advice from TIY:eek::eek: LOL. hey Tojaz, I'm following you again LOL!
Pradajunkie Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Cocaine and guns. toss in running with scissors and you have a partner
tojaz Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 LOL. hey Tojaz, I'm following you again LOL! Thats alright, couldn't ask for better company
seibert253 Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 Da Gym. Went from a fat 235 to a ripped 193. This brought the ladies a runnin.
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