wattodo Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 first of all I love this man, I really do, he's a good man, but still learning.. Hey everyone, I hope someone can give me some guidence on my situation. here goes, My boyfriend and I got together two years ago, and broke up a few times and I took him back everytime. Then two years into our relationship, when I thought everything was perfect, he went away on a friends stag party, told me that they would be going to strip clubs and ha organiszed a stripper. I wasnt very happy with this but glad he was honest with me. He kept in contact with me a little bit while away on the 4 day party. On his return he was quite quiet, and a week later he told me he cheated on me by kissing someone, I was absolutly heartbroken. I left our home and days later he found me at a friends and cried on the doorstep for weeks. he sent me flowers, love letters, lots of little presents. I left it for a month and decided to take hime back. I love him, he swore to me that he'd never do it again. although I believe him, I ont trust him100% yet. Recently due to work stresses he had been going out to his friends house, didnt keep in contact with me and didnt come home to the next day. I was so worried, and so mad, thinking that I could have a man that would not do this to me. What am I to do, I love him, i know he loves me, but how do I get it through to him that its not acceptable to carry on the way he has been latley. I dread the day he asks me to marry him, and he goes off on his stag do, because im afraid of what will happen. Am I worrying about nothing?? Is there anyone out there that can help me,I love him dearly, I just need reasurance...please help. x x x
DaisyBelle Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 1. He has intimate encounters with other women (kissing). 2. He's not sensitive to your feelings/is manipulative (not accepting your decision to leave, cajoling you back with flowers and gifts). 3. He lies (he didn't tell you what happened at the party). 4. He isn't as communicative as you'd like him to be (went to his friend's house and didn't call, according to you). 5. You don't trust him not to cheat on you (you worry about when he goes to his future stag party). This doesn't sound like a good match for you. Sounds like he can treat you whatever disrespectful way he wants and you'll keep coming back for more, so why would he ever change?
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