jqb05443 Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 I have posted alot last week. In short was with my ex for 3.5 years. He broke up with me over 2 months ago. During the two months we were broken up we hung out a few times (which he knew I wanted to get back together with him) and was really amazing. We spoke a few times. I went away on vacation and gave him a card and letter before I left telling him that I really wanted to work things out, how much I missed him and didn't want to be with anyone else. He told me he would have to think about it and let me know when I got back. He kept saying that if he said yes to me, he would be saying yes to 2 things (getting back together and marriage). When I got back from vacation he was acting really distant. He finally told me on Friday that we both needed to move on. I was devasted and decided to try to start NC as I have been failure since we broke up. I was a wreck all weekend as it felt like I got dumped all over again. He pretty much also made it seem like he didn't want us to be friends anymore either. Well yesterday, I must love torture, I broke my NC of 2 days and text him if he wanted to go see a Broadway show with me that I had tickets for which he knew about in July. After the way he treated me when I got back you would think I would be able to say F you and move on..but I can't. I was really expecting him to say no we can't hang out anymore or something along those lines. Well to my shock he replied yes that he would go with me. What do you guys think of this? If he really wanted me out of his life and to move on woudn't he have said no? Does this mean that he actually does want to see me or that he feels bad for me and that's why he is going? Any thoughts?
hoping2heal Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Why can't you let go? That's simple. You don't want to let go. When a person finally wants to move on, they will do so very quickly, but until they decide they want to let go, which you don't; they will continue to keep that wound wide open, hanging on every inch of false hope the other person will afford them. He doesn't want a long term comittment with you, he already made that clear. The way he can so easily weave in and out of your life without effect, shows his feelings are not there. You can continue to seek out false hope, only to further prolong your pain and suffering, and have it amount to nothing in the end, or you can fake it until you make it. Cut all contact with him, and began the process of moving on, and then you will.
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