Example 1 Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Ive been seeing this girl and we went on a date the other day but i didnt kiss her, but the date went well, i had a good time. ive secured a second date for tomorrow, to see a movie. im very nervous about going in for it, im not sure how to go about it, especially since we didnt kiss on the first date. im also thinking maybe if i should go for the first kiss at the beginning of the date. any ideas are very welcomed. Example 1
DarkestDreams Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 At the beginning? That would be weird and most definitely awkward. Wait until the end of the date and move in for the kiss only if the signals are there. Patience, grasshoper, patience.
struckby Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 For me, I would wait until the end. Here is what you could try though throughout the date. Find excuses to touch her. Something like putting your arm around her, holding your hand during the movie (try it!) and hugging her will, if she is interested (which it sounds like it if its a second date) get her used to touching her. Then, when you are done with the dinner/movie thing go to a private place, maybe when you are in the car, or walking her home, and stand/sit close to her and lean in for the kill! Good luck, keep us updated, Im curious.
Author Example 1 Posted June 24, 2009 Author Posted June 24, 2009 but im thinking if we're going to see a movie, i dont want it to be awkward. ive had this experience before. ok, maybe going for the first kiss at the beginning is a little bold. what would be best to do while in the movie? i wouldnt mind doing it in the movies. Im bad at being able to tell when it's the right moment sometimes. Example 1
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Man...movies make it a little difficult to connect with a date and initiate physical contact without seeming awkward. But I guess if I were in your spot...try holding her hand. Or if it's a theater that has those armrests that move, flip it up out of the way and just say, "So we can be closer" with a soft grin. Holding hands that way or even with your hips touching is plenty while in the theater. I think it would awkward as hell to have a guy attempt the first kiss in the theater. What if she's not ready for it? Then you're both stuck sitting next to each other unless she's bold enough to get up and walk out. It's such a fine line. Try to not do too much, too soon. As for the first kiss - what's wrong with a goodnight kiss at the end of the night? All I will say, though, in regards to that is don't expect, or even make it SEEM like you're trying to expect sex out of it. If it gets all hot and steamy, cut it to 5 mins, tell her you had a GREAT time and ask for the next date (with a date in mind or not, doesn't matter). By cutting it short like that, you keep the anticipation there, show self-control, and keep it really steamy. In that case, I'd be DYING to see the guy by the 3rd date. LOL
Author Example 1 Posted June 24, 2009 Author Posted June 24, 2009 Man...movies make it a little difficult to connect with a date and initiate physical contact without seeming awkward. yes, but i kind of know this girl already. i work with her on some days. But I guess if I were in your spot...try holding her hand. Or if it's a theater that has those armrests that move, flip it up out of the way and just say, "So we can be closer" with a soft grin. Holding hands that way or even with your hips touching is plenty while in the theater. I think it would awkward as hell to have a guy attempt the first kiss in the theater. What if she's not ready for it? Then you're both stuck sitting next to each other unless she's bold enough to get up and walk out. It's such a fine line. Try to not do too much, too soon. so would you say it's good to be touchy, flirty, maybe hold hands, but hold of on the first kiss until at least after the movie? As for the first kiss - what's wrong with a goodnight kiss at the end of the night? All I will say, though, in regards to that is don't expect, or even make it SEEM like you're trying to expect sex out of it. Im not trying to get sex out of it. but i dont want to make it obvious, like walking her to her door (i would do it anyway, but not as an excuse to have the first kiss) im trying to figure out something to do after the movie, but i feel it will be too late (we both get out of work a little late) If it gets all hot and steamy, cut it to 5 mins, tell her you had a GREAT time and ask for the next date (with a date in mind or not, doesn't matter). By cutting it short like that, you keep the anticipation there, show self-control, and keep it really steamy. In that case, I'd be DYING to see the guy by the 3rd date. LOL i like that idea, keep her wanting more. im just more worried about the actual first kiss. its knowing when the right moment is that i have trouble with.
Bayern Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Maybe greet her with a peck on the cheek. By the end of the date you might be able to go in a bit more. Who knows?
2sure Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Hmmm. Over the years I have gone on many many dates. Too many to remember, but I do remember one in particular. We dated for a little while and didnt go anywhere...but I will tell you what charmed me the most about him. We were work acquaintances who flirted. We knew we liked each other and were attracted. Finally he asked me out. At the beginning of our first date, he suddenly kissed me and it was nice. I laughed afterward because I was surprised and he said: I wanted to get that over with right away so I could concentrate on talking with you instead of staring at you and wondering. I loved it.
Author Example 1 Posted June 26, 2009 Author Posted June 26, 2009 UPDATE so we might be going out tomorrow night as I had asked her to go out Friday night the day after the first date (and we didnt kiss). But she doesnt know if she can go out tomorrow yet. She said she'll let me know. ive had work all week with her since the first date, and it has been slightly awkward the last couple of days, i dont know why. She has been acting a little shy towards me, which she usually isnt as far as i was able to tell. As have I, which I feel is due to the fact that we didnt kiss on the first date. i became a little shy at work after the first date, i hate that i have been. ive tried to stop being so nervous, but ive had work with her everyday, and i have to focus on my job so's not to have a bad day at work. but thats just an excuse. ive sensed a lowered-energy level with me. for example, i said hi to her at work, gave her a hug, called her "cutie", talked a little. She said she was a little tired, ok whatever. However i noticed when other guys we work with said hello, she would greet them with a lot more energy than with me. i felt jealous... i do not know what to do, ive tried to be a little more touchy-feely than i usually am, but havent gotten much response. I mean there are these moments during work, where i feel there is a little flirting, but its hard to tell if she is still interested or is trying to not hurt my feelings. im thinking if she cant make the date for tomorrow night, ill suggest we hang out for a little bit after work, talk and/or flirt for a bit, then go in for it. I feel it must be done now or never. We have seen each other every day since the first date. is she stressing out about it as much as i am, thus why there's so much tension? or did i F**k up? please help, i do not know what to think!
carhill Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 for example, i said hi to her at work, gave her a hug, called her "cutie", talked a little. Oopsie.... i do not know what to do, ive tried to be a little more touchy-feely than i usually am, but havent gotten much response. Oopsie #2.... It pays to remember here that you want to date this young lady, not grope her at work. Discretion, young man, discretion Resolve to be professional at work and save the romance for the dates. If she's still interested, you have a chance. If, at the conclusion of the second date (if it happens), you feel attracted to her and want to kiss her, do so. It's the only true way to put clarity to her intentions. Regardless of her response, smile when you say goodbye. You followed your path
JeansShortsJohn Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 Before I kissed her, I'd tell her I made a pact with God not to get a B.J. from my wife until she's preggers.
2sure Posted June 26, 2009 Posted June 26, 2009 I think it sounds like you both like each other a lot. I think you should not hug or call her pet names at work.
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