Is he or isn't he into me?

[finejewel]

I have know this 43 yo man for about a year socially. Both of us have never married, no children and have good careers. We have decided to see where it goes. We enjoy alot of the same things eg ~ sports, laughing, socialize with mutual friends, etc. It is rather new and I think we are trying to get to know one another, but when he calls, I answer the phone, if I am near it. We talk, decide where and when to meet up and then go out. However, when I intiate the call or text message, he does not reply. This has happened on more than one ocassion, with the most recent last evening. I called him @ 910pm, then after not hearing back from him, went to the local spot where we both go to watch games, see friends, etc. (I had to meet one of my female friends there) He was there. I sat down and said nothing regarding the fact that he didn't answer the phone. I said hello and began a conversation with another friend. Well, 3 seconds later, there's his phone ringing and he picked it up, I heard the conversation and knew by the dialogue, he was talking with a male friend. Question 1: "he could answer that call, but not mine?

 

Then after leaving, I texted messaged him with no response. I know he doesn't like text messaging, but I ASKED hiim to respond. No response.

 

I just don't get it. When we are together; we have a great time, laughing, discussing our days at work, current events, watching sporting events, it's great.

 

WHAT THE HECK AM I DOING WRONG!!!!

 

thanks for reading and Any help would be appreiciated!!!

[motive2002]

Don't read too much into it yet. Some guys just think a phone is a pain in the ass to have. Sure he picked up from his buddy.. maybe he hadn't heard from him in a long time or something. You don't know. Just don't hassle it. If he doesn't text back don't worry. A lot of guys blow text messages off, unless it's a dirty text hehe.

[mistletoe]

hey dear.

no offence on the this point:) but may be perhaps you've shown to be more possessive of him than he is to you.

maybe it could help if you stood back a while, and looked at the situation. I understand that he has somehow ignored your messages and calls when you haven't done anything wrong. Sometimes, it is also good that you take your turn to not contact him so often and see how he responds to it.

If it still seems as though he does not bother at all, consider this friendship/relationship again, are you the only one into it?

 

Talk to him calmly about it and be direct(not beating around the bush), try not to pick on tiny details(it frustrates men:( even sometimes i do! but we women, cannot help it at times) Remember why in the first place you loved each other's company. It might help:)

[Trialbyfire]

He's telling you not to crowd him. Whether or not you are, is subjective and for that matter, you have to decide if what he's offering is enough to make you happy.