BeyondClueless Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 I took a break from dating - for numerous reasons - and am finally in a happy place making the best of every day with myself, and my side-kick dog. All the sudden, a sweet, younger guy (who I met a year ago) waltzes back into my life. He is attentive, complimentary, makes a point to find the common ground between (of which there is plenty), and is totally in love with my dog. After thinking I read the signs of his mentioning he has an ex-girlfriend and wants to hang out correctly when interpreting them as: I'm single and ready to mingle with you, I made the first move, he jumped on board and we hung out. All was great, then he started talking about "girls," specifically his ex, how he cheated on her, and will probably get back together with her when he heads back to school... what am I missing here? Does he just want to be buddies? Though, it seemed he was interested. I've never dated a younger guy, granted this is by only four years, but I've always been the younger one in the relationship. I need insight... should I run away from this?
D-Lish Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Yes, I'd walk away- all the red flags are present. He's already set up your break up by warning you he will probably get back together with his ex gf. He disrespects you by talking about other girls! He's telling you that nothing serious will come out of what you have. Four years isn't a big age difference- but this guy isn't mature enough to share even a casual relationship with. Any idiot with a brain knows to refrain from talking about his interest in other women around a girl he is fooling around with. The only reason he would do so is to carve out his way out. Don't put up with that- you have more value than being his interim fling!
Author BeyondClueless Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 D-Lish, best advice I could have asked for. Thank you! It's funny, since our first night out, we've been together, a lot, but keeping things light and flirty has been great. I don't worry about it and I don't expect anything from it, and end up having a better time.
NoTNorMal Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 It is unfortunate that it is now considered cool and hip for guys to act like playboys. Sounds like he really likes you and is probably playing hard to get. Why don't you try to get in contact with his ex and see what's up?
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