Silly24 Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Okay, I'm new to the dating scene. Been married for 13 years. I met a man online. Handsome and chatty. We later met at his place to fool around, after we met at the beach and determined there was realy chemistry. I don't like to waste time (no judgement please). It was great. Now I'm 38, but I keep myself fit and not to be arrogant, I'm very attractive. I invited him to dinner at my place, but he cancelled. Now I receive text messages over and over again. They range from "hi" to "what's up" to "hi sexy". Am I missing something?
laRubiaBonita Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 IMO- he wants to fool around again... no strings or GF attachments.
bean1 Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Sounds like he is a no-strings attached (NSA) person looking for sex on his own terms and when he feels like it. Dinner at your place on your invitation might frighten him off as it implies some sort of closer connection as opposed to casual sex. Are you interested in a relationship or NSA sex?
butcher's hook Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 He sees you as a friend with benefits, nothing more. He doesn't want dinner or anything that resembles a date, he wants to keep the connection just alive enough so that when he needs a booty call you will be ready and willing again. Forget dinner just invite him over in the middle of the night you will have him over in one second.
Author Silly24 Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 Okay here the kicker. I emailed him telling him that I don't want a relationship, but want to have fun with him. I specified no strings attached, but we could hang out. Seriously, I'm in the middle of a divorce, I don't want a boyfriend. He texted (and yes he will only text) back that he needs to see the person every night for "cuddling" and wanted to know what I wanted. I couldn't get him on the phone to discuss this. I think I should just let it die...right?
Jilly Bean Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 He's asking you if you want to be a regular f*ck buddy.
Author Silly24 Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 Great! That's what I want...but he won't talk with me. I need to date men my own age. Men in their 20's are difficult.
Jilly Bean Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Great! That's what I want...but he won't talk with me. I need to date men my own age. Men in their 20's are difficult. Well, if you are as hot and ready to bang anyone as you say, then go find someone more willing. Agreed he's too young and too many games. You know what you want. Won't be hard to find a guy who just wants you for sex, too.
laRubiaBonita Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Great! That's what I want...but he won't talk with me. tell him you don't text... you did- but it costs too much and you would rather he called. I need to date men my own age. Men in their 20's are difficult. i think you mean Men are difficult....
13arkansas Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I had this experience with a young guy once - I think some are way too immature to actually understand what a FWB is, and how great it is to be in that situation with an attractive woman. They still get stuck in 'playa' mode and don't really get it, act all wrong and it's a waste of your time...I'd find another guy...
boogieboy Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I had this experience with a young guy once - I think some are way too immature to actually understand what a FWB is, and how great it is to be in that situation with an attractive woman. They still get stuck in 'playa' mode and don't really get it, act all wrong and it's a waste of your time...I'd find another guy... Nah he knows what an FWB is, hes just doing it with an attractive girl his age. If he REALLY wanted to continue with you he's make it known.
13arkansas Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Doubtful, else he wouldn't keep texting her if that was the case (it's not like she's chasing hm, is it), and he clearly doesn't know how boring he is as a result...if he understood the whole FWB exchange he wouldn't be acting this way, period, he's be upfront. He's not mature enough to be upfront.
NoTNorMal Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 He knows you put-out. Your not a challenge for him. He probably screws chicks he barely knows all the time. Try mailing him a gift certificate to wal-mart for chocolate syrup, paint brush, whipped-cream and a sheet of plastic to put on your bed.
Author Silly24 Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 I agree...who cuddles? You cuddle with someone you're in love with. He texted me later stating that when he's seeing someone he, he sleeps with her every night. I don't want to see him every night. That's not a FWB, it's relationship. I think he's playing me like he would a younger woman. You know, play the "I might want a relationship" card and then she'll let me come over for "fun time." I don't want a relationship, I just want the "fun time"! Movin' on.... You are all awesome people, thanks!!!
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