fabulous_chk Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Cute guy in class. I've been crushing on him and last week he rolled up his sleeves and showed me his "injury" from welding. Mmmmmm.... I spoke to him several times about school stuff, and as we were walking I found out more stuff about him. I just don't have the courage to get his number! How do i do this?
boogieboy Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 I know you want to be subtle, and do it in a way that you dont have to risk rejection. It doesnt work that way. You have to say it straight out "give me your number so we can hang out soon" He will either say yes, or no. If he says no, it was nothing you did wrong, he just isnt feelin you. No big deal. Im sensing that you made the mistake of building up your expectations of what could happen. You do that, and you will set yourself up for hurt. So you should lower your expectations first, breathe, make sure its not a big deal in your mind, then it wont hurt if he says no. If he does like you, as long as youre not yelling in his face with spittle dripping off his lips, theres no approach that will fail.
2sure Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Its difficult to put yourself out there ans ask for someone's number. The risk is rejection and honestly I dont know how men get used to that. If you want him to know you're interested w/o all the risk - do what I have done: Give him YOUR number. Just smile and say, by the way , here - call me anytime. If he isnt romantically interested he will think you meant it like call for school or as a friend. No embarrassment or rejection involved. He will not be sure why you gave it to him. If he is interested romantically, he'll call. Guys seem to like this - he will call.
boogieboy Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Its difficult to put yourself out there ans ask for someone's number. The risk is rejection and honestly I dont know how men get used to that. If you want him to know you're interested w/o all the risk - do what I have done: Give him YOUR number. Just smile and say, by the way , here - call me anytime. If he isnt romantically interested he will think you meant it like call for school or as a friend. No embarrassment or rejection involved. He will not be sure why you gave it to him. If he is interested romantically, he'll call. Guys seem to like this - he will call. Guys get used to it by practice and necessity. We HAVE to or else it doesnt get done most of the time. Heres the problem with how you do it: The rejection is your case isnt immediate, but its lingering. If he doesnt call, she will see him in school, and she'll be afraid to ask him why he didnt call, or will be afraid to talk to him in general. Its long term wondering. If you ask him for his number, and he says no, then you got the rejection over with right then. Its much easier to deal with. Same if you call him, and he doesnt answer, or call/text a reply, you know right then hes isnt into you. You get the rejection over with quickly.
Author fabulous_chk Posted June 24, 2009 Author Posted June 24, 2009 Ah, we spoke again today. I tried to hang around in the classroom to wait for him but my girl friend was waiting for me. I sat on my car, and he passed right in front of me but didn't see me. I tried to get out of the car to ask him a silly question on organic chem. It started pouring cats and dogs. Le sigh. I am going to wait until a proper conversation starts so I could ask for his number without seeming desperate. He was looking at me today. I wore a tube top and nice fitted jeans. Tomorrow is another day. God I hope he asks me out.
boogieboy Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Ah, we spoke again today. I tried to hang around in the classroom to wait for him but my girl friend was waiting for me. I sat on my car, and he passed right in front of me but didn't see me. I tried to get out of the car to ask him a silly question on organic chem. It started pouring cats and dogs. Le sigh. I am going to wait until a proper conversation starts so I could ask for his number without seeming desperate. He was looking at me today. I wore a tube top and nice fitted jeans. Tomorrow is another day. God I hope he asks me out. Ahhh the congestion of college. Gotta love it. Good girl! take whats yours!!!!
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