t0ri Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 I snooped on my ex's myspace yesterday, and found a great surprise! A picture of him kissing this girl on the cheek. It's this same girl that I know he texts all the time. On the cheek may not sound so bad, but it freaked me out. I started shaking and felt really anxious and started crying. After 2 years 3 months of him only kissing me, that was the strangest thing to see. I'm trying my best to stop picturing that image in my head. That picture is the girl's main picture on her myspace. I felt so destroyed. I cannot believe it! I seriously still am in shock over our breakup, and how he's treated me, much less a picture of him kissing someone else! I guess I deserved to see something painful since I kept snooping. I'm done looking, that was more than I can handle. And a mutual friend of ours just told me that my ex and the girl from the picture are hooking up. So lovely to know. And she's really pretty, which makes it even better. I can't believe how easy it's been for him to move on! I'm on the dating scene also, but I'm not finding it easy to like people alot because I'm not over him. What a slap in the face, to be so easily replaced. You guys were right. He only came back for a month after originally dumping me to use me as a place-holder until someone else came along. I can't believe it. Is there a way to block his myspace page so I can't see it, without blocking myspace altogether?
boogieboy Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 The only way to block it is with willpower. I mean, really, how much longer are you going to torture yourself like this? Youre a grown woman, and your ex moved on. You need a new hobby to help you resist the urge to check his myspace and fill the void. How many guys have you talked to that havnt been able to keep your attention? At some point there has to be one that magically makes you forget about your ex. Maybe you just have to up your numbers.
Author t0ri Posted June 23, 2009 Author Posted June 23, 2009 Well it's still hurtful and confusing to me that it was so easy for him. It's a tough thing to swallow when you realize they don't love you anymore and are completely moved on. It's only been 2 months since he ended things for good! Anyway, I've been kind of seeing one guy in particular but he's turning out to be bad news and I'm completely turned off by him. I have others pursuing me, but I need to give them more of a chance I guess.
boogieboy Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Well it's still hurtful and confusing to me that it was so easy for him. It's a tough thing to swallow when you realize they don't love you anymore and are completely moved on. It's only been 2 months since he ended things for good! Anyway, I've been kind of seeing one guy in particular but he's turning out to be bad news and I'm completely turned off by him. I have others pursuing me, but I need to give them more of a chance I guess. Like I said, willpower. You have to resist circling those thoughts around in your head. The faster you give the new guys a chance, the faster you might get one that completely turns your mind around, but you HAVE TO give them a chance. If you dont, its a rebound situation and...well you know how that works. Someone will sweep you off your feet. Its not that its easy for him, its that he checked out of your relationship months before he dumped you. He was never hurt. So he didnt love you waay before you realized it. For him not to tell you then is what you should be angry at. But you dont want to stress thinking about somoene who was too cowardly to tell you what you did wrong to turn them off. IF you did. Does he know you are sitting around thinking about him? The best thing you can do is show him you dont think about him by not answering any of his calls, because you have a new guy who treats you like you should be treated. BTW if he sees this, he will be calling, and you have to avoid the calls. Can you do that?
Author t0ri Posted June 23, 2009 Author Posted June 23, 2009 Its not that its easy for him, its that he checked out of your relationship months before he dumped you. He was never hurt. So he didnt love you waay before you realized it. For him not to tell you then is what you should be angry at. But you dont want to stress thinking about somoene who was too cowardly to tell you what you did wrong to turn them off. IF you did. Does he know you are sitting around thinking about him? The best thing you can do is show him you dont think about him by not answering any of his calls, because you have a new guy who treats you like you should be treated. BTW if he sees this, he will be calling, and you have to avoid the calls. Can you do that? Yeah, he was too cowardly to admit that he wasn't in love with me anymore, and I could feel it so I clung tighter, obviously pushing him further away. He also was cowardly in his ways of dumping me both times. The first time was just by him changing his relationship status' to single on myspace and facebook, and the second time was a text message. No good explanation. That is so heartless to keep me stringing along for his own selfishness. He didn't consider my feelings at all? Does that mean he didn't care about me? I'm not sure if he knows I'm sitting around thinking about him. Probably, because he knew how much I loved him. We've had absolutely no contact for two months now. No calls or anything from him, nor me. I'm so angry with him I'd have no problem avoiding his calls, if they were to ever come. I don't think they will. I highly doubt he even looks at my social-networking sites, so he'll probably never see me with another guy, or care about it. By the way, thanks for replying
boogieboy Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Yeah, he was too cowardly to admit that he wasn't in love with me anymore, and I could feel it so I clung tighter, obviously pushing him further away. He also was cowardly in his ways of dumping me both times. The first time was just by him changing his relationship status' to single on myspace and facebook, and the second time was a text message. No good explanation. That is so heartless to keep me stringing along for his own selfishness. He didn't consider my feelings at all? Does that mean he didn't care about me? I'm not sure if he knows I'm sitting around thinking about him. Probably, because he knew how much I loved him. We've had absolutely no contact for two months now. No calls or anything from him, nor me. I'm so angry with him I'd have no problem avoiding his calls, if they were to ever come. I don't think they will. I highly doubt he even looks at my social-networking sites, so he'll probably never see me with another guy, or care about it. By the way, thanks for replying Maybe you can think of it this way.... I dont know how old you are...but do you see how much faster you could get over him, say 15 years ago, before there was text messaging and myspace/facebook? Back when they were gone they were GONE, and you couldnt check up on him... Maybe you can try that mentality........
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