Exit Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Ultra fast-forward recap -- GF dumped me 2 months ago. For the 1st month she was finishing school so I backed off and did limited contact. After graduating I thought she'd come back, but another month passed and despite all my apologies and offering to make it work, still nothing. But for some reason she was hesitating in giving me my things back. So I had to go over there myself one day and confront her and get my things. So, after getting all my stuff back, she agreed to talk to me one more time (yet at the same time, told one of my friends she didn't want to give me false hope). The next day, she didn't call, so I sent her a message saying I understand if she didn't want to talk, but that I was going to send her one last letter to get everything off my chest. So I sent her a long letter. Not begging her to come back. Not being clingly. I took an objective look at our relationship, told her where I think our problems started, what we could have done better, and that I still would like to give this another chance if she ever wanted to. I said my goodbyes at the end and figured this was as much closure as I was ever going to get. Later that day, I get a text... "I'll send you a message later this week." WTF?!!!!?!!? Every time I show her that I am ready to walk away, she hesitates and does something like that. I've been doing "okay". Writing that letter still did give me a lot of closure. I know I am comfortable enough with me feelings that I can explain them word for word in a 4 page letter. She has trouble even saying one or two sentences to explain herself. So I felt going that I know where I'm coming from. I went out with someone new last night and we stayed out til 4am, but nothing happened, and I know who I was really thinking about in the back of my mind. I guess she is stringing me along. I wonder if I will ever get this letter, or if this week will go by and she'll just change her mind and never say anything. IF she sends me a letter, I would hope that it's good??? Why send a response if it's going to be negative. My heart is already broken. I already said goodbye even though it was hard to do. So I wouldn't understand her motivation to send me a letter unless something I said finally made her rethink. Doing my best not to get my hopes up. A big part of me wishes she never offered to reply. I'm aware I opened myself up for this kind of "stringing along" by breaking NC and deciding to talk to her. I still don't regret that.
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 look dude it has been almost 3 wks since my breakup and i cant even get a wk of NC yet. imma try again tommorrow my ex even is seeing someone already which hurts like hell but das what she wanna do...i think of her constantly in my sleep even. Try to stay busy that wrks for me sometime.
Beeotch Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Sounds like my ex....but he never responded lol She seems to have a problem expressing herself from what you've said and you're expressive. That was me and my ex. He didn't write me back (we talked about other stuff in text and on the phone) but he never addressed my letters to him...and at first I thought he was just an a-hole, but in truth, if he has problems expressing himself...that is going to be intimidating. I am an excellent writer and connected with my feelings...he is not that connected sooo in thinking, he may have wanted to respond but didn't know how...didn't think his could match up. She might feel the same. I actually feel bad for them because they have a problem and although we may not know it, stuff hurts them maybe worst because while we can get our feelings out on paper/email/talking about it....they are unable to. Hope she writes back...don't hold your breath though and don't be hopeful that it is going to be candycanes and kisses in the response either.
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