EmptyPromises Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 ok so heres the background of our relationship: weve dated for over a year, always had issues with insecurity ( on both ends) and jealousy. i had trouble trusting him and he tells me now he always had trouble trusting me. our relationship was kind of immature, instead of fighting things out we would break up every other week.he sometimes insinuates that im slutty and stupid, but then claims hes joking and not to take him serious. still after i say to him not to call me names, he still would. he would always bring up guys in my past for no apparent reason. i talk to 0 other guys and would never evvverr cheat on him. i caught him in a few lies and found flirtatious messages to girls on his facebook. he said they were jokes, but i wound up breaking up wtih him. i was miserable for a month, asking him back, calling him & textnig him all the time. i tried no contact but every few days id go back to talking to him. i went to see him three times and asked if he wanted to work things out. he would say he didnt know, and to me that means no.he used to beg me back whenever we broke up. now its me doing the begging and it makes me feel like he doesnt love me anymore or doesnt care.after starting to accept that maybe we just arent meant to be, i went away for the weekend with my friends and decided maybe him and I could just be friends. so i told him that , didnt speak to him for a few days, and he calls me at work askign if we could go to the movies as "friends". obviously i still wanted things to work out and accepted cuz i knew thats not what he meant. so we went to the movies, he kept kissing me and i refused to kiss him back. he said he wanted to be wth me.i wound up crying when i left telling him ive tried to show him i want him and now its time for him to show me. my ex boyfriend messaged him asking if we were together the next day, and i think maybe that freaked him out, so he told me he wanted to work thigns out with me again. and i accepted. so for the past 4 days ive been on my best behavior, being extremely nice, not being uptight, lettnig him do what he wants, not getting angry at him when he forgets to call. we told eachother we would hangout last night and he called me yesterday confirming. he had work til 930.. so i called him at 7 to maek sure our plans were still on...he said he didnt no. i started to bug out cuz its a 45 minute drive to his house. he said he wasnt sure when he was getting otu of work , so i asked him if we were still gonnan hangout. he ignored me. he was being rude about it and not answering my calls or texts. i started to get extremely upset and annoyed and cried harder than i ever have in our break up. one of my biggest pet peeves is when people break plans. i must have called him 10 times and sent him 12 texts just saying how upset i was & that maybe we should just be friends blah blah. i felt like a psycho cuz he wasnt answering me & i just kept texting again and again. on top of that i left like 4 voicemails. i finally sent him a text saying call me back or im done. ...he never called. i am so embarassed i feel like I ruined thigns now because of my little outburst. i just think hes not at all understanding that i have a job too ...that i have to get up at 7 and get out of work at 7...leaving us barely anytime to hangout. i was willing to drive to him ( as i always am since he has no car) and he was just being so unappreciative. his birthday is tomorrow, i dont think im goign to try to talk to him today or maybe ever again unless he calls me first and apologizes. ill call him tomorrow and just say happy birthday. hes going to Atlantic city this weekend, and i was really cool about that ( since im really bad at trusting him ) and he didnt even appreciate that. i just feel like im puttin gin the effort and that i am tryign to change for us. im trying to be more laid back, give him freedom, and be nicer about things. i feel like hes not ready to be with me yet and maybe thats why hes not putting in the effot. i feel like hes over me & just doesnt want me to move on so hes lying about wanting to get back together...advice?
hopefulInFuture Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 I really think you should get over him and move on. This guy is a jerk and furthermore insensitive and selfish. Do you really want a man like this in your life?
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