Author My name is ED Posted June 23, 2009 Author Posted June 23, 2009 Haha Dexter Morgan, i laughed when i read your comments, in a good way, i needed that man thanks, fortunately it wasn't HIV so im glad but i still have to take care of myself you know. Yes i agree with you she doesn't deserve to be running around spreading misery but theres nothing i can do about her shes in her own world i guess. I just need is to clear mines up thats all all the comments and advice i got helped out a lot. Yes she brings up what about the baby, this and that and well like i said until i know that the baby is mine or not i can't really do anything to big. Like i said i know its probably a bad thing but i wish and pray that the baby is not mine, is that bad?
seibert253 Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Two words, then a short phrase sums it all up 1. Paternity test 2. Run Forest, Run.
Dexter Morgan Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Yes she brings up what about the baby if the baby turns out to not be yours, tell her to ask the father "what about the baby"....if she can even pinpoint who the father is Like i said i know its probably a bad thing but i wish and pray that the baby is not mine, is that bad? Well you wishing the baby isn't yours to me says you want to be able to leave this marriage knowing you have absolutely NOTHING to tie you to this "woman", and on a small scale you want to be able to throw her cheating in her face and having a baby by another man would be the ultimate thing to do it with. Nothing wrong with hoping the baby is yours in either case.
Author My name is ED Posted June 23, 2009 Author Posted June 23, 2009 Im working on it, i am but theres almost nothing i can do while im deployed I have to wait till i return back to the stated and take it from there, but what im worried about it that my name might go on the birth certificate and im not going to be there to be like hey hey wait, but im working on getting someone to represent me on that ... Gus was a great help by mentioning that..
Author My name is ED Posted June 23, 2009 Author Posted June 23, 2009 Dexter thats true, i mean im not doing this for vengeance, im doing it more to be able to just walk away from what is or was the biggest mistake i've done by far. But being able to just walk away with no tie down would be great.
Author My name is ED Posted June 23, 2009 Author Posted June 23, 2009 ladys? why is she like this? childhood was bad maybe? idk or she's just stupid?
jnj express Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Hey Ed---I don't know what your wife's age is, or what her experiences in high school were, but i do know this-----this and the last generation of high school grads, treat sex differently than many of the rest of us----they basically had unchecked sex, sex to them was treated as a physical need, just like eating is a physical need----true many respect and hold sex as special, but as i just said many think nothing more of having sex as satisfying a physical need. That IS NOT THE KIND OF PERSON YOU WANT FOR A WIFE. You MUST find out the deep down WHY she has to go out and have sex with everyone on the block. Also as to the child to be born----if it is not yours---DO NOT BRING IT UP AS YOURS----life is hard enuff. Your wife can get a paternity test done to find out the father, if it is someone else's child it is their responsibility, also depending upon the psychological makeup of that father you could be stuck with him in your life for the next 18 years, if you agree to bring up his child. somehow I don't think you want that . I am sorry you have this to deal with along with serving our country, it is all a heavy burden. You have given your wife way to many chances already, she is an addicted sex addict, and an addicted liar, You need to annul, or divorce this person. Do not tell me you love her, cuz I will ask you HOW DO YOU CONTINUE TO LOVE SOMEONE WHO HAS INFLICTED SO MUCH PAIN ON YOU, AND SHE WILL CONTINUE TO DO SO. What she is doing is ruining your future, in that you will now have a terrible time trusting any woman. Stop this nighmare you are in, and get away from this liar, and cheater you are married to.
Dexter Morgan Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 ladys? why is she like this? because she sucks childhood was bad maybe? even if that were true......so what? or she's just stupid? no question
Author My name is ED Posted June 23, 2009 Author Posted June 23, 2009 Dexter you are amazing, you have the answers to it all and they are simple and to the point. i like the way you think.
Dexter Morgan Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Dexter you are amazing, you have the answers to it all and they are simple and to the point. i like the way you think. become my apprentice good man, and no woman will walk all over you ever again:cool:
ForumFool Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Ed I am a woman and have had bad times in my childhood and yet I did not spread my legs for any Tom Dick or Harry...I didn't marry and treat my spouse like crap .....In short she is trash for you...don't matter why....dump her with the other rubbish and find a lady who will treat you with respect...YOU are a valuable person and a hero to me...being in the service and all..You don't deserve this shyt... She is a human toxic waste dump....run and when you come back from Iraq...don't look her up....just adios mo-fo her hugs
Ariadne Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 ladys? why is she like this? childhood was bad maybe? idk or she's just stupid? She's probably hot and gets hit on a lot. Can't control herself and likes the attention. Those guys probably make her feel good in a certain way. There's also the case of girls that "fall in love" with almost every guy they meet.
Author My name is ED Posted June 24, 2009 Author Posted June 24, 2009 ForumFool, thanks. I wish it was that easy but there's still the fact that the baby she is carrying might be mine, if so no matter what im still going to have to be around her, If the baby is mine i plan on being there for him when he needs me. On another note if its not mine i wouldn't have any problems doing just that and running way from her and forgetting about her. But once again the military sees her as my dependent and i have to take care of her until we get divorced so its only a matter of time until i can for sure sure know where im going to end up and from there i hope i can just get up and walk my own way. -ED
Author My name is ED Posted June 24, 2009 Author Posted June 24, 2009 She's probably hot and gets hit on a lot. Can't control herself and likes the attention. Those guys probably make her feel good in a certain way. There's also the case of girls that "fall in love" with almost every guy they meet. I see that but then why did she get married to me, she wasn't like this well she was but just hid it real well and now that she's coming out the closet with all this stuff i can't believe it you know. Im such a fool and well i can't do anything but to move on you know.
ForumFool Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 ForumFool, thanks. I wish it was that easy but there's still the fact that the baby she is carrying might be mine, if so no matter what im still going to have to be around her, If the baby is mine i plan on being there for him when he needs me. On another note if its not mine i wouldn't have any problems doing just that and running way from her and forgetting about her. But once again the military sees her as my dependent and i have to take care of her until we get divorced so its only a matter of time until i can for sure sure know where im going to end up and from there i hope i can just get up and walk my own way. -ED Understood hon, but the gig is odds are the kid isn't yours whatever number of dudes she confessed too..I forgot cause its after 3 am here...you can double that when someone drinks..and parties...I could biotch smack her one....Move as fast as you can for testing and a divorce...
Author My name is ED Posted June 24, 2009 Author Posted June 24, 2009 Im working on it trust me. The lawyers i talked to today and one of my commanding officer asked if there was nothing that could be done to work things out, i said No haha its to late now and even if it wasn't to late i don't think that she will change any time soon. -ED
seibert253 Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Im working on it trust me. The lawyers i talked to today and one of my commanding officer asked if there was nothing that could be done to work things out, i said No haha its to late now and even if it wasn't to late i don't think that she will change any time soon. -ED You're coming around my friend. Even if you're the father of this child, you need to end this marriage. You can still be there and support your child without her.
Ariadne Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 I see that but then why did she get married to me, she wasn't like this well she was but just hid it real well and now that she's coming out the closet with all this stuff i can't believe it you know. Im such a fool and well i can't do anything but to move on you know. Well, She probably wanted to have some stability with you. You seem like a serious and responsible person. But I guess she wasn't ready for such a commitment. I'm so sorry about what happened. Hugs.
Author My name is ED Posted June 24, 2009 Author Posted June 24, 2009 Thanks Ariadne Well a quick update for you guys; i got an attorney to begin to process to remove her power of attorney, and they are looking in to what i can and cant' do in the state i reside in when it comes to divorce. Hopefully she won't ask for much when she fights back because i don't plan on giving her much. Or anything at all if i can. Now later on during the week i have an appointment to get more into what we can do .. -ED
Dexter Morgan Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 Thanks Ariadne Well a quick update for you guys; i got an attorney to begin to process to remove her power of attorney, and they are looking in to what i can and cant' do in the state i reside in when it comes to divorce. Hopefully she won't ask for much when she fights back because i don't plan on giving her much. Or anything at all if i can. Now later on during the week i have an appointment to get more into what we can do .. -ED She is only entitled to half the marital assets since you were married. And remember, she is also on the hook for half the debt. Only thing she has a leg up on is custody because she is the mother. sucks, but true.
Andy L Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 What a wonderful wife you have... Man, it seems like not really real, but i believe in you. I am so sorry for all this. What does she want from life? Is she crazy? You deserve better. And probably she will keep on screwing around the world.
Author My name is ED Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 Andy L, what does she want out of life? i don't thin she even knows that. All i know and that i have come to figure out, is that she just wanted to have a place to sleep, money, food on the table etc and thought she could leave responsibilities out by the door next to fitful. so she got tangled up in her game and now she's sorry but its to late. she could of changed before when i told her but she chose to change just the days she saw the other guys so now she's getting the boot from me and at this time i don't feel in any way bad or sad or guilt of what im doing... so its alright and you know what i think she is crazy...
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