lost09 Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 we're both in early-mid 20's. together 5 years, living together for 2 of the 5. I'm feeling really claustrophobic in this relationship and have a huge urge live life again (i feel like cohabitation is almost like living with parents). I've been with her for all of my adult life, and I feel like i need to get out there again before i get old. the problem is i still care for her and want her to be happy, it breaks my heart knowing how upset she'll be if i call this off - she's been pressuring me to get engaged, something i DO NOT want to do. my question is, do i end the relationship? I've had these thoughts for about 2 years (the what would it be like to be single again thoughts). If I end it, how do i go about doing so??? any help is GREATLY appreciated. I'm in a really tough spot, and it's really getting me depressed.
bean1 Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Yes, break up with her. You obviously don't have the same goals (her=marriage, you=want to 'live (single) life again). There is nothing wrong with that, especially at your young age, but you can't lead her on. Women generally move in with a man in the hopes it will head into marriage (whether or not that works is debatable, lol). Just tell her the truth about how you feel and why you don't wish to continue the relationship. I have been dumped several times in my life, and the only men I look back and have respect for are the ones that told me the truth. Sure, I was upset at first (who wouldn't be?) but I sincerely appreciate their honesty in hindsight.
BobSacamento Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Dip**** your wasting her valuable time. If she wants to get engaged then you shouldn't lead her on like you have been. Stop being a deadbeat live in boyfriend and man up and be the bachelor you truly are. Talk about LAZY.
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