Raderick Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 Never have I seen a relationship happen either with friends or people I know in which the older person is the female. I'm not talking about cougars, but women is just a few years younger than the man. It's always the man being older. Someone care to explain why, because I'm pretty lost on the subject.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 I'm not talking about cougars, but women is just a few years younger than the man. It's always the man being older. I think you mean the woman a few years OLDER. And that's not true - I've heard of this happening. And not "rare" exceptions. It's about as common, IMO, as the other way around. But maybe it's because women mature emotionally faster than men do. I don't get along with guys that are younger than me. And honestly - my current BF is less than a year older than me and I have a hard time relating to his train of thought some times. LOL But I have seen plenty of FEMALE posters on here that date men a year or more younger than them (and I'm not talking about cougars, either).
Bejita463 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 Never have I seen a relationship happen either with friends or people I know in which the older person is the female. I'm not talking about cougars, but women is just a few years younger than the man. It's always the man being older. Someone care to explain why, because I'm pretty lost on the subject. My ex wife was just under a year older than I.
loser101 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 no I went out with someone who was just a year younger than me. my mother's long-term partner is a year younger than her. a few years here or there don't bother anyone, not even worth mentioning
Trimmer Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 I married a woman a few years older than I - was with her for almost 20 years, and although now divorced, we continue to work together in parenting our children. So if you accept that "Never have I seen..." just means "I haven't seen it" but not "it never happens," does that help ease your confusion?
clv0116 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 I think you mean the woman a few years OLDER. And that's not true - I've heard of this happening. And not "rare" exceptions. It's about as common, IMO, as the other way around. It happens quite a lot in that it's not uncommon but it's not nearly as common as the other way around, at least specifically for marriage. Also the average difference was 'only' 4 years or so IIRC.
Lizzie60 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 my-my..where have you been.. I lived 5 years with a man who was 12 years younger. Since him.. 7 years ago.. I ONLY date/sleep.. with men 8 to 31 years younger.
anne1707 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 My H is two years younger than me. In the past I dated men a few years younger than me aswell.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 my-my..where have you been.. I lived 5 years with a man who was 12 years younger. Since him.. 7 years ago.. I ONLY date/sleep.. with men 8 to 31 years younger. LOL. Read the post again, Lizzie. He said no cougars.
Lizzie60 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 LOL. Read the post again, Lizzie. He said no cougars. and your point is????
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 and your point is???? 8+ years is not what he had in mind, I imagine. He said a FEW years. He was wondering why women only a FEW years older don't date men younger than themselves. 8+ is more than a "few."
clv0116 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 8+ years is not what he had in mind, I imagine. He said a FEW years. He was wondering why women only a FEW years older don't date men younger than themselves. 8+ is more than a "few." I think as far as "dating" it's not uncommon at all, I'd say very common. I've certainly dated older women, particularly when I was much younger. Now at my age an older woman would be pretty effing old.
Author Raderick Posted June 22, 2009 Author Posted June 22, 2009 I probably should have made it more clear. For example, My best friend is 34 and his girlfriend is 30. I have another friend who is 19 and her boyfriend is 22. And then I know someone else who is 26 and his girlfriend is 22. I never met a couple that, say, the guy is 21 and the woman is 23, or, say the guy is 30 and the girl is 35.
Lizzie60 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 I probably should have made it more clear. For example, My best friend is 34 and his girlfriend is 30. I have another friend who is 19 and her boyfriend is 22. And then I know someone else who is 26 and his girlfriend is 22. I never met a couple that, say, the guy is 21 and the woman is 23, or, say the guy is 30 and the girl is 35. Oh well.. just because you never met a couple where the woman was a few years older doesn't mean it's not uncommon. It is very common.
Author Raderick Posted June 22, 2009 Author Posted June 22, 2009 Oh well.. just because you never met a couple where the woman was a few years older doesn't mean it's not uncommon. It is very common. Fair enough. I'm just going by what I experience. I've been rejected by every woman older than me (some specifically because I was younger, blah), so every date has been with younger women.
Trialbyfire Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 This is pretty common practice, in that a few years is no big deal. Two of my female friends are married to men who are a few years younger than them. You can't tell and they don't trumpet it to the world, since it's a non-issue. I will generalize and say that you'll probably see less of it, with teens and early twenties. By the time people hit mid-twenties and older, it rebalances more, since the average man/woman has caught up to the average woman/man, maturity wise.
loser101 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 Fair enough. I'm just going by what I experience. I've been rejected by every woman older than me (some specifically because I was younger, blah), so every date has been with younger women. that could be because they don't see you mature/independent enough for your age
Eve Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 I knew of a lady in her early fifties with a 28 year old. They owned a Pub together and were really good company. They had been together for a number of years too. Love is love I suppose. I would have reservations if that was my son but as I said they were happy and good together. I liked them. Take care, Eve xx
clv0116 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 I probably should have made it more clear. For example, My best friend is 34 and his girlfriend is 30. I have another friend who is 19 and her boyfriend is 22. And then I know someone else who is 26 and his girlfriend is 22. I never met a couple that, say, the guy is 21 and the woman is 23, or, say the guy is 30 and the girl is 35. Define couple. It definitely happens.
luvbugged Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 In my twenties I dated a guy who was 2 years younger than me for three years. This was in college, and it felt pretty rare at the time. I would never do it again either - he wasn't terribly immature but I do think it's significant that my next boyfriend was 6 years older.
Soul Bear Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 I'll tell you something for free, ALL my gf's have ALWAYS been older than me. Usually by 1 - 3.5 years....one of them was 5 year my senior .....Im 24 now.... I find women younger than me to be way to immature.... So it does happen!
clv0116 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 Thanks folks for the insight! Marriage is a different beast than dating. If you were talking marriage or even dating with a goal of marriage then I'd have to agree more with you.
loser101 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 Marriage is a different beast than dating. If you were talking marriage or even dating with a goal of marriage then I'd have to agree more with you. I wouldn't. not all men view women as breeding stock
clv0116 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 I wouldn't. not all men view women as breeding stock Nice to know, I'm just judging by actual measured statistics. Hope you get that anger management thing taken care of.
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