whitecat Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 hi im new here, my story i basically went out with my best friend for 4 years, on and off. i had this crazy fight and broke off 2 months ago, knowing we would be back. however this time he did say sorry nor tried to get me back. he started going out more and more with friends and dating multiple people. so i told him to never call nor text me cause i had to move on, however he would text me i miss you and love you. anyway, last thursday he told me i broke it off with his current date. and i finally found hope so asked him to get back, he said lets go slow. yesterday he called me and he accidentally mixed lines and i hered his conversation with his "ex" however they were still dating! i got pissed and sent an email on behalf of someone else telling that person that he was already dating, i know i did bad however this person played me even after i told him i was so hurt and to stop looking for me. he stormed crazy into my house and started yelling i ruined his life and that he loved the person i sent the email and that she had cut him off. i feel so guilty, i know it wasnt right, however it felt almost as if it wasnt me who sent it it was my crazy jealous person and i regret it very much. he says he is going to sue me and tell his dad (my boss) to fire me, and he is going to ruin my life. i mean he was my best friend and he hurts me soo much, now here i am sending emails to this girl telling her to take him back, i feel horrible. i just want any recommendations on how to fix everything, i am so scared of him right now and regret it. also if someone had founf out that they were playing them, would my behavior not be as crazy?
Exit Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 You have to learn the lesson to NEVER take ANY action when you are flooded with emotions. You absolutely have to walk away and forget about it when you are sad/angry/jealous because you always will do something you regret. Keep this in mind for the next time. All you can do right now is email that girl, you say you already did, but really send her an honest email and tell her what happened. Explain what happened, that you might still have feelings for him, that you acted without thinking, and you regret doing what you did. Ask her to give him another chance and hopefully he will stop threatening to take it out on you. Unless you worded your explanation poorly, it says YOU broke up with him, and YOU automatically had the assumption that he would come crawling back. This time he didn't put up with it, he found someone else, and now you're jealous. Despite the fact that he is wrong for texting you "miss/love you", you really brought most of this upon yourself. Don't play games with people. Don't break up with someone assuming that you "know" they'll be back. I think you need to call this one a loss and cut ties as quickly as possible. One quick apology/explanation to the other girl, maybe tell him that you made an effort to explain to her, and then go away. Give them a chance to figure out what's going on between them.
Author whitecat Posted June 22, 2009 Author Posted June 22, 2009 your right exit totally right, however i did ask him to come back and he answered that he didnt want to date, only to go out immediatly. unfurtunatly i acted out of anger and true i shouldn't have, but now im just scared of him he is screaming at me and telling me to fix or if not he will end up haunting me forever in my life. what do i do to fix this? i already sent emails to this girl and called her however she told me to call her later cause she was busy. im scared......
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