ExiledLyCan Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 2weeks now, for the pass two weeks we hanged out maybe like 3-4 times a week but they were all pretty short, like 3-5hours a day, recently she told me that she thinks we should just hang out 1-2times a week because she doesn't want us to get tired of each other. When i ask her to do stuff she just replies with "maybe, if im free that day, or i gotta catch up with some of my friends" etc. Sometimes she would also rather like stay home and watch tv than to go out. She is still calling me however, everyday if i dont call her first. From my point of view, i feel like im being treated more like a friend than a boyfriend, am i over reacting to this? should i be able to ask for a little more? or is this normal in a relationship. *edit* Is this something i should talk out/ask her about
aeval Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 To be honest, it doesnt seem as if shes very into you. Wanting to not hangout as much so u dont get "tired of eachother" sounds pretty silly to me. In the beginning of the realtionship you should be just going with the flow and let nature take its course. Have as much fun as u want, no need to put restriction on a relatipnship two weeks in.
luvbugged Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 To be honest I think you're overreacting a little bit, and yes you should talk to her about it if it's really bothering you. Maybe you can compromise. 3-5 hours a day several times a week would drive me nuts, though.
boogieboy Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 I think this one can go either way. I spend too much time with my ex at one point and I did want to be away from her for a couple days, but not permanently. This might be an honest warning. So what you should do is NOT talk to her about it. It will just push her away, and she wont give you the real answer. Its pretty simple. You let her go do what she wants to do, let her initiate the calls, and let her decide when she wants to see you again. Be patient. In the meantime, you keep the phone calls short and fun, end them first, and act a lil more busy. Its the push-pull effect. She sees you pulling away and she'll push. Just like you see her pulling away now and you push, got me? On the other hand, she might be looking to hang out with another guy. If she is, then you became too clingy. So when you are with her, you better become a whole lot more fun to keep her attracted to you. If she is entertaining the thought of another guy, it might be too late.
Jester268 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 ^^ Zomg Someone is a playa...... If she wants to hang out with you less you should just hang out with her less. If you tell her "I want to be with you all the time yada yada yada" you're just going to smother her with your clingyness. Become aloof. When she see's you're busy but still fun and having fun she'll want to hang out with you more.
Author ExiledLyCan Posted June 22, 2009 Author Posted June 22, 2009 Yea for the moment ive settled down, and i think imma go with the idea to just let her do what she wants for a week, and if shes not wanting to hang out more and such i may consult her and it doesnt work out i guess it doesnt. But one thing i did forget to mention is when were hanging out or at the movies she seems like shes pretty into me however, of course it may be just me but like for example, we were at the movies and the mall and she would look at my hand from time to time and than look back up and hesitate to hold it and looks like shes scared to act first, if this information is of any use
collegekid491 Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 3-5 isn't very much time? more the 1-2 times a week? you definitely demand alot of attention by the sounds of it. thing you gotta keep in mind is 1) she's right, you hang out to much and it just burns out fast; 2) her schedule might be more hectic then yours and she may need some alone time (i personally need some time to veg out); 3) you should have a life apart from her (aka bro time). another thing, different people require different amounts/types of affection. not to mention, as you stated, only been 2 weeks, if you bring it up this early in the relationship its basically over cause if you have problems that soon its best to start looking elsewhere.
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