sb129 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 He is one of my best friends. I don't have a "best" best friend. I have a few very close friends who have known me for varying lengths of time. My H is the one I have known for the least amount of time out of this group, but we are good friends, yes.
Trojan John Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 Best female friend, yes. My best friends are a couple of guys I've known for 15 years.
Woggle Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 I have best friends rather than one best friend but my wife is most certainly amongst this group.
seibert253 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 My wife is absolutely my best friend. Ditto here.
SuicideBlonde Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Do you consider your SO to be your best friend? Absolutely - without a doubt.
pkn06002 Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Well I will spoil the positive responses above. Nope!
quankanne Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 at the risk of sounding like a jerk, thank heaven there's someone else out there who does NOT consider their spouse their best friend. I love my husband, we get along and we're friends, but there's no way I'd classify him as my "best" friend, simply because the dynamic of our relationship is WAY different than what I've got with the two folks I consider my best friends and soul mates. and I don't necessarily think that you need to be married to your best friend in order for your relationship to succeed. It helps, but it's not necessary, IMO. … preparing to get flamed …
redtail Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 etc, etc, etc and I don't necessarily think that you need to be married to your best friend in order for your relationship to succeed. It helps, but it's not necessary, IMO. … preparing to get flamed … Oh I definitely agree with this, I'd be the last person to flame you. It helps, but not necessary.
GorillaTheater Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Whether or not my wife is my best friend appears to depend on which day you ask me, because today? Not so much.
silktricks Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Do you consider your SO to be your best friend? He is my best friend.
Lizzie60 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Same here.. ^ I have 2 best 'best' friends and they are female.. one for 54 years... the other for 40 years... My exes were my partner, my lover, my friend.. not my 'best'... I would never give up my 'best friends' for any man.. Love comes and goes... a great friendship is for life..
angie2443 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 at the risk of sounding like a jerk, thank heaven there's someone else out there who does NOT consider their spouse their best friend. I love my husband, we get along and we're friends, but there's no way I'd classify him as my "best" friend, simply because the dynamic of our relationship is WAY different than what I've got with the two folks I consider my best friends and soul mates. and I don't necessarily think that you need to be married to your best friend in order for your relationship to succeed. It helps, but it's not necessary, IMO. … preparing to get flamed … quankanne, if you're still reading this, may I ask if you think this has something to do with the age differance between you and your husband or is it just your way of viewing the husband/wife relationship? I'm not flaming you at all. I'm just curious. I'm sure that in the past, many people did not think that their partners should be their best friends or soul mates. I think this is a more recent way of viewing the partnership in a relationship.
boldjack Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 I agree with Liz, GT, and others. The dynamics of a marriage or exclusive relationship are very different from a friendship.
Heroic Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 Absolutely. We share about 80% of our hobbies and activities. I would rather spend time with my wife than a guys night out.
redtail Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 I agree with Liz, GT, and others. The dynamics of a marriage or exclusive relationship are very different from a friendship. I'm not agreeing/disagreeing, just curious, could you elaborate? For me at least, the two are not mutually exclusive.
boldjack Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I'm not saying that an SO can't be a friend also, just that the expectations are different. Intimacy , for example.
HsMomma Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 My answer is a definitive...yes and no! While my husband is BY FAR my best male friend, as well as being my partner, lover, etc., I also have my "best" female friends - those to whom I'll say things that, as women, only they would understand. Not that I would keep anything from my h, but I've known these women for years & years & can say absolutely anything to them & they get it. To say the same thing to a man (even my wonderful h), I'd have to try to explain it - ONLY because men & women see things differently. I wouldn't trade either - my BEST FRIEND husband or my BEST girlfriends. I look at it as the best of both worlds!
redtail Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I'm not saying that an SO can't be a friend also, just that the expectations are different. Intimacy , for example. Yup, true enough, I agree.
JamesM Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Absolutely. We share about 80% of our hobbies and activities. I would rather spend time with my wife than a guys night out. In total agreement. There are times where I want to spend a night out alone, but if I were to choose anyone to spend time with, then my wife is the one. And she is the one I want to share stories, events, and news with. She is the one who I ask advice from. Her opinion is the one I respect the most. As for her, she even feels more strongly this way.
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