LovieDove24 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 My sister called me last night drunk and started telling me all sorts of things about her troubled marriage and its weighing very heavy on my mind. My sister said she is completely and utterly repulsed by the idea of sex with her husband and would rather be celibate the rest of their lives together. They haven't had sex in over 4 months. She said she never should have married him...she wasn't even excited about it and when she watched the videotape back of the proposal she said you could see it in her face. She also said she wishes he would just date someone else and get it over with. Oddly enough, she still also said she doesn't want a divorce. When I asked her about their communication she said she's told him she isn't attracted to him anymore but hasn't talked about it recently because it (obviously) brings up hard feelings. They haven't even been married a year but were together for four years before getting married. I told her they need to get into counseling FAST but do you guys have any other advice I could give her?! She needs to have sex with that poor man!
giotto Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 mmm... what advice? She is repulsed by him... time to find another partner...
Author LovieDove24 Posted June 22, 2009 Author Posted June 22, 2009 Is it that simple? I mean doesn't everyone go through certain ebbs and flows when it comes to sex in the relationship? I've never been married so its hard for me to say, but I will say I can slightly relate. My longest relationship was three years and near the end, I was not very sexually attracted to him anymore either.
1Angel Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 Are you sure she doesn't have some mental health or physical health issues? That could be a cause too.
carhill Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 Ask her again when she's sober. Listen and compare. If the stories are markedly different, another poster has insight. Suggest she see a doctor.
SansSouci Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 Was she ever attracted to him or did she marry him for other reasons, for example - he was a decent guy...? She may be panicking, ... you also say she has spoken to her husband initially about this - how is he coping? he must feel absolutely dreadful....... Also - why doesnt she want/consider divorce/separation? Is it stigma - too scared to admit a mistake? Pressure from others ie family? Perhaps she is hoping it will get better? - Or does she not want a divorce because everything else is good about the relationship except the sexual attraction? I agree with Carhill - talk again when she is not under the influence.....
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