Sevenscars Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 The details differ, the stories remain the same... When you are newly broken, a second chance is always on your mind. Well, here is my story, and I hope anyone with the similarity of even one word in this story gets something out of it. I met a girl, we will call her Gloria. We attended the same college. The way we met was straight out of a Hemingway story. Romance and all that, oh it was quite the fairy tale. So a few months went by, and we did great! She helped me through so much, I helped her through even more...I gave that girl my all! Then winter break came... And she left me for another man. Without caring to inform me. Boy, did I wimp out. Phone calls, tears, letters...then I told her I was not going to stand for it. I wanted her, and her alone. She gratefully accepted and thanked me for giving her another chance. We were back together! We were doing great! Weeks went by, and I knew this was the girl I wanted to marry. So I got her a diamond ring. I got her many other things. I wrote her poems, letters, waited for her call whenever she was not busy, got her many fancy things and nice jewelry...I spent A LOT of time, money, and emotions on this girl. And then the fights started. From the first breakup, I could no longer TRULY trust her. The phone calls died down... But we made it through. We realized we wanted to be with each other, and that is all that mattered, we made plans (schools and housing and much more!), I told her I was going to give her everything, and she promised to always be with me, always wait for me, and all that good stuff... So, naturally, that's why the very next day she tells me she can not promise anything to me, THAT SHE NEVER DID PROMISE ANYTHING TO ME, and I keep acting like a wuss. She then tells me again she promises to always be with me, and then pulls a fast one on me by emailing me how we should no longer call each other and emails are now the only acceptable way of communication. I email her back a few days later, bitching about how she could have given me the decency of a phone call, and she responds with: I, myself, could have called at any time. Is that so, my dear Gloria? Well, I thought you had said... No matter. I emailed her again a few days later asking for a phone call, one that never came. So what did I do? Oh, I cried, wallowed in self-pity, all the usual...and then, I started moving on. Not even a few months later, she contacts me about how she is finally okay with the whole situation and how she wants a phone call. Now she wants a phone call. After what? Now that SHE is finally okay with the situation? After her new boy fell through, now that she feels lonely, all that good stuff? Well, no more, my former love...indeed you have put me through more hell than you gave me heaven. Second chances are a bust. It doesn't mean that I do not miss her. I miss her 1/1,000th of what I did a few months ago, but I still do. Every now and then, I get the urge to reply, and then I remind myself to think of THE GIRL and not just A GIRL. Truly wanting is better than having. As for this new email...Ignore. Would anyone else care to share?
nittanylion Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 If she put you to hell, than you put her to hell too. You should never get mad at her, just get even with her by doing NC. She didnt give you a second chance, why should you give her?
seibert253 Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 You are the fall back on, second string, sitting on the bench waiting to get into the game. As long as you are with her, you will be Mr. steady fall back on. She's got you hooked and she knows it. She knows she can treat you like sh#t, and you will gravel, cry, whine, and beg. Then when her latest find falls through, she can come back to you until guy # whatever comes along. Then you're right back on the bench. You do not deserve this. You need to end this and tell her you're done being second fiddle. Tell her you're through and do not call, email, nothing. When she calls, emails begging for chance # whatever, (to many to count), do not answer her. It will be difficult because you'll be hurting, but you need to to do it. No one deserves to be treated the way she treats you. You need to find someone who will love, honor, and be committed to YOU. She IS NOT that person. Peace, and good luck
samspade Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 So, naturally, that's why the very next day she tells me she can not promise anything to me, THAT SHE NEVER DID PROMISE ANYTHING TO ME, and I keep acting like a wuss. A woman's promise is about as good as a three dollar bill, my friend. That's not to say that a woman won't stay loyal if you behave the right way. You, in your sad desperation, did too much to squeeze oral commitments out of her that she could never back up, because she had no respect for you. In your next relationship, long term or short, don't resort to cheap tactics like gift-buying, poem-writing, and the like, which only put her on a pedestal and leads to the kind of disrespect you experienced. Be a man and take the lead. She should be fighting for YOU. I hope you got your diamond ring back, btw.
No_ambition Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 I'm back with mine after she said she couldn't live without me. My story is prolly a little different as it was my fault why we split. Were moving in together but I do have reservations in my head, just small ones but they are there all the same I think each case is unique and wish u well in the future
xXxshootingstarxXx Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 I'm back with mine after she said she couldn't live without me. My story is prolly a little different as it was my fault why we split. Were moving in together but I do have reservations in my head, just small ones but they are there all the same I think each case is unique and wish u well in the future Wow, congrats No_ambition - good on you, that's great! And well done for following your heart and not letting 'the one you love' slip through the net! I wish my outcome was as wonderful as yours. . . maybe oneday I'll have success with my ex - I'm still holding out!
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