fabulousgal Posted June 21, 2009 Share Posted June 21, 2009 Hmmm. So 6 mos of strict a* NC down the drain. In a way I am glad I did it because I never forgot him. I definetly worked on myself and enjoyed my life but never forgot him. I ended up back in the place we dated, so I thought...hmmm I should probably just ignore him if I see him. Well, I failed. I was so happy to be back here, I tried to reach him. A week later I am still in the place we met and no response. Sad fabgal. Then I said, you know what...screw him I am going to live my life and move on for good. And I went out. I had a great night. I came home to a new message in my inbox. I got what I asked for. I should have just stayed away...but no. I learned some information that hurt. He's with someone else now. Probably happened right after I moved. All this time. I missed him, and he's been growing a relationship with another. I haven't had the chance to date bc of work travel and intense projects, so I am jealous. In a way it might be good I learned this so I can see my love was a one way street, unrequited, he probably only dated me for some fun in le sack. But I could have infered that from NC, just with some nagging doubts. All in all kids, the moral here is stick to NC. If they want you they will find you. God I hope I can sleep tonight thinking of him and her....yuck. You don't want to be in this spot. Go NC and date and find someone who WANTS to be with you. Link to post Share on other sites
jqb05443 Posted June 21, 2009 Share Posted June 21, 2009 Im sorry fabgirl. I have been a failure at NC since we broke up 2 months ago. I was good for the first 9 days and then i broke and its been downhill since. we spoke a couple times since the break up and hung out 4 times until i gave him a letter telling him i wanted to work on things and he basically told me on friday that we should move on and he wished the best for me. i feel like i am back at day one. i have not left my room since friday night. i have been here crying and told myself i will start strict NC...and i broke this afternoon again. But I have faith I can do this. So tomorrow start DAY 1 again for me Link to post Share on other sites
iBelieve In Symmetry Posted June 22, 2009 Share Posted June 22, 2009 This is why I love Caliguy's NC guide thing... Q. I can't resist the urge to contact my ex! What should I do?? A. If you've deleted all their contact info yet still remember how to reach them, call a friend instead. Go work out. Take a bike ride. Go for a jog. Do something to occupy your mind. Get out, don't sit around the house pining for your Ex. Rest assured they are not sitting around with their new love wondering why you aren't calling them. That usually kills any temptation to contact her and sets me back on track... Link to post Share on other sites
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