c1pkw Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 This is how I see the dating scene here in the UK. I'd be interested to hear your views wherever you are from. Girls complain about how bad they have it but they seem to ignore how easy it is for them to hook up or find a bf. Girls just have to go to a club / bar / anywhere else and stand there. Guys come over and talk to them and await the girl's verdict: If they don't like the guy, then they take out all their selfish frustrations on him by humiliating him with a disgusted look up and down, a sarcastic comment and flat rejection. When a guy they do like comes along they demand drinks and adoration in exchange for allowing him to come near her no matter how overweight she is. Why bother when most other girls are fat too? Meanwhile, guys spend the night plucking up the courage to approach a girl he would like to get to know, in the full knowlege that they will probably just be treated like dirt. We have to put put our whole self-worth on the line by going over to face the female court of "ok or get lost". I've found that the more polite I am, the ruder the girl's response but I am polite, I wouldn't want to be any other way. I'm definitely not one of those disgusting "grab your ass" guys. Blame the education system, media, or whatever but even well below average women have such massive egos and high expectations that they see all men who are not millionaire models as beneath them. I know what you are thinking: "He's going for the wrong type of girls". But over the years I've seen guys including me get the same treatment routinely from all kinds of girls in all kinds of places. Guys: if you are in the UK do you agree? If you are elsewhere does this still sound familiar? Girls: What is your view on this description? I know it isn't pretty but, honestly, that's how it seems to me and every guy I've spoken to.
OtherSide Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 I'm from the US, and I have to say your description fits for some women. I find it really annoying that some of these girls think too highly of themselves not only in private but in public too. However, some girls are really down to earth and also quite attractive. I've dated a few. Those are the girls you want to keep, to hold tight. Keep searching; don't give up. There will be a few girls who'll be modest and kind and caring. Oh, and I tend to skip the bars. Maybe if you cultivate a relationship beforehand? That's what I seem to do, and it seems to work. Just don't get trapped in the friends zone! Hope this helps, OtherSide
Eleventy Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 In the long run there is a natural equilibrium to things as we learn more about ourselves and about others. If a girl is overvaluing herself, she'll find that in the long run, she'll have trouble finding someone she finds worthy, forcing her to lower her standards and to quit being so holier-than-thou. In other words, girls that treat you like dirt are not going after to begin with.
Author c1pkw Posted June 21, 2009 Author Posted June 21, 2009 In the long run there is a natural equilibrium to things as we learn more about ourselves and about others. If a girl is overvaluing herself, she'll find that in the long run, she'll have trouble finding someone she finds worthy, forcing her to lower her standards and to quit being so holier-than-thou. In other words, girls that treat you like dirt are not going after to begin with. I completely agree with you Eleventy: there is a whole generation of British girls who are "pricing themselves out" of the relationship market. In just the same way as they are only happy with the new, shiny consumer goods they buy until something better comes along, they expect better and better from guys. This has gone way past the point where it is realistic asperation. Problem is, it doesn't help me get past this now though does it? Seriously, this is pretty much universal here in the UK so it's no good just saying "go for girls who aren't like that."
LovieDove24 Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 I'd also like to add that I've found through life experience that the OUTLOOK we hold on others is often what we get. Maybe if you stop looking at women as overweight, snobby shrewds who want your beer money, you'd stop attracting those types of women. Just a thought.
MusicChick24 Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 I'm from the US, and I don't go to clubs so I can't vouch for that audience, however I have seen the kind of women that you mention, and agree this is annoying. However I believe it's alot in how certain women are raised. Some women are raised that they are better than everyone else. Here, where I live in the US these women are in the minority however. <3
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