xxSRMxx Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 I am sooooo upset while typing this, This may not seem a huge deal, Some of u have read my story, some haven't. Logged onto facebook today (i didnt delete him, he doesnt go on that much, i neva had much temptation 2 look) ''****** is now in a relationship'' ermm excuse me? After I was fed the absolute CRAP of ''Your the right girl,just the wrong time'' I spent ages and ages of my time and energy falling in love with a commitmentphobe. Only to now log on and see that! My face started burning SO HARD when i seen it my living room was full so i jus went upstairs and sobbed. Im sobbing now typing this, I was doing SO WELL. Ive started a new job and the tears were starting to stop, i was strting to feel half normal but he was obviously still at the back of my mind. A few of my friends have said they think hes doing it for a joke plus the other week I took my status as 'no longer single'' this was only because i had to let this guy down whos been harassing me etc. Yes ill admit half of me did think i hope he see's this and assumes something. But for some reason I dnt fink hes messin around, havent seen him around as much and his best mate is usually always around him and he hasnt been as much. Why her? watd she have that I didnt? Why has she managed to settle this complete male slag down? How?? My self esteem has taken its biggest battering yet.
Thornton Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 Just because he's in a relationship, that doesn't mean it'll work out. I have watched my ex go in and out of a couple of relationships on Facebook while I've been with my current bf. I was bothered at first because he had someone else, but now it just seems pathetic because he obviously can't maintain a relationship with any of them. I like to think he's somewhat annoyed that I have a happy and stable relationship
Author xxSRMxx Posted June 21, 2009 Author Posted June 21, 2009 Oh theres a 80% chance it wont last. But i cant help feeling angry and confused, hes won again! hes constantly happy, always landing on his feet. N me? Im jut plodding along with him still at the back ofmy head everyday. I took 2 steps forward and then seeing that I feel like the same blubbering wreck i was a few weeks ago.
adamt Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 I always think someone has to be dumped before the can improve how they act in a relationship. the chances are that your dumper is acting hte same in their new relationship as they think they are the perfect person in a relationship and you were the one who was wrong. there is a good chance their new partner might not be as understanding or into them as you were. or it could be their tunr to be dumped because they have learnt nothing from being the dumper
fairycake Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 I'm sorry for your pain xxxSRMxxx. I've been there, I'm still there actually. My ex split with me in Jan suddenly. He went distant a week before but until then all was fine. He'd had a lot of girlfriends, most for only a few months. He always said though that was as he hadn't meet anyone he connected with mentally and physically, he liked talking about intellectual stuff but having a laugh with a partner too and we matched well on that level plus the physical stuff was fantastic. He told me he felt something for me he hadn't for anyone else, several of his friends made jokes about whether he'd settle down with me as he talked about me more, was sure about me from the start and seemed more 'into' me than his exes.Things were always good and he talked about our future. I believed I was different but he split with me as he 'couldn't' be with anyone then I saw something on his webpage that looked like he was with another girl. This was 2 and a half months since we split awhile, yeah, but if he couldn't be with anyone then I don't see how stuff had changed so much. He also told me when he split with me that he was bad at relationships and always ended up going distant. Nice of him to warn me that before I loved him. Finding that out sent me back too and I've cried loads, wondered what she has that I don't. I've realised though the only thing she has that I don't is that she's new. My ex definately had 'emotional issues' and sounds like yours did too. He'll probably get bored of her too after awhile, or freak out if it gets too serious. I've also realised whether my ex is with anone else or not is irrelevant, we're not going to get back together, we're not in touch and I haven't looked at his page since (he's not on my friends he has a public page) as I don't want to know anymore about his life. Cut-off is hard but it feels better after the pain phase. Concentrate on you and your life and don't think about what he's doing.
Author xxSRMxx Posted June 22, 2009 Author Posted June 22, 2009 Thanks for your feedback guys, rly appreciated. Just been on facebook. ''******* Is now single'' attention seeking IDIOT. Like i cried and all the time it was just a lie, weather he was doin it for a joke or to get a rise outta me. I didnt act bothered and put anything in my status relating to it, i didnt text him either. so maybe he didnt get the reaction he wanted! Instead i came on here, this forum helps me alot. What a bunch of wasted tears.
DarkestDreams Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Save yourself the pain and just remove him from facebook. He's trying to get a rouse out of you and it's obviously working.
Author xxSRMxx Posted June 23, 2009 Author Posted June 23, 2009 Well after not texting him and keeping NC i've now got a text from him this afternoon. ''I heard u had a crazy drink last thursday, tut tut'' (me and some friends had a wicked night out last thursday) Delete and Ignore. (I am DYING to text him bk tho i wont lie!)
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