Thomas X Forever Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 It was only a page long, pretty short. I applied the best of my knowledge to prevent it from being clingy, annoying, weird, mean, or desperate. I feel I came up with a good letter, that basically only consisted of me saying that I have been doing a lot of thinking and want to make things work. Then I said that if she has any part of that feeling as well, then to please not ignore the letter. I'll keep everyone updated.
jqb05443 Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 Goodluck! I wish you the best. I unfortuneatly gave my ex a card and a letter inside telling him how I feel. And after thinking about it for a week, he told me on Friday he wants nothing more to do with me. I am crushed beyone words. Please keep us posted. Hopefully yours will turn out better than mine : )
Author Thomas X Forever Posted June 21, 2009 Author Posted June 21, 2009 That's so rough. Sorry to hear about that, seriously. Thanks for the well wishing. I just got sick of dreaming about her and not talking to her for so long. It is getting old being alone.
jqb05443 Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 Yeah it hurts so bad. We were together for 3.5 years and broke up for two months now. During the 2 months we were broken up we spoke a few times and hung out a few times. So after Friday I am back at square one and feeling like the first day we broke up because now I know there is no going back. So I have been a mess this whole weekend. Crying as I am writing this. How long were you guys together? Why did you break up? How long have you been broken up and how long have you gone with NC if at all?
Author Thomas X Forever Posted June 21, 2009 Author Posted June 21, 2009 Just don't let someone tell you that the chances are, that your ex found someone else, and that's the reason for the break up. Of all the times I've ever broken up with someone, not a single time was it for another girl. Ever. People are getting old and annoying on this site, quoting that. They're trying to convince themselves, by repeating the same rehashed, dead-horse-beating bs. Now, as for my relationship. We dated a bit over a year. I loved the girl, I thought I'd marry her. I made mistakes though, I was suffering through a deep depression. I didn't treat her as good as I wish I did, and would now. She said she needed time because of her busy schedule, but I suspect it has more to do with her parents pressuring her to do well in school, and avoid a relationship at this age because of that. And for the experience at this age. I have been NC for months. We met up a few months after we broke up, though, and we both cried and she said she still loved me. We even planned a vacation. Perhaps things moved too fast, though, because it fell through. (I expected and saw this coming. However, I did not allow the suspicion of it falling through, to affect my decisions, mood, or attitude in general towards her before it actually happened). I keep dreaming about her, and I've had enough. I want to work things out.
jqb05443 Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 When we broke up that's the first thing that came to my head. It has to be someone else because the breakup really came out of nowhere. I told him that my friends and family thought there was someone else and he told me there wasn't and that wasn't the case in our situation. The last time I saw him and gave him the card I put in the card if there was someone else to tell me...and the first thing he said after he read the card was that there really isn't anyone else. He was just confused right now. Thank you for saying that to me...although I really believed him hearing people on this site saying it was..started to make me feel like it was so thank you. Since our break up we haven't had that period of being away from eachother really. So maybe him telling me he wants nothing to do with me is his way of getting that space between us to see if he really misses me. I am planning on going NC and if I don't hear from him in a couple months I will reach out to him and maybe this time apart will be good for us. (i know i will catch slack for that from people here lol) when did you send the letter?
Exit Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 Hope it works out for you! The other day my ex was supposed to have one last phone call with me, but she ended up not calling, so I wrote her a pretty long letter instead. To my surprise I then got a text message "I'll send you a message later this week". I'm not getting my hopes up but at least she has the decency to say something in return. Like you said, I just tried to make it as calm as possible, I didn't beg her to come back, I just talked about the different aspects of our relationship and maybe where we could have done a better job. I think it's a good thing to do. Definitely made me feel better than sticking to NC.
hopesndreams Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 Just don't let someone tell you that the chances are, that your ex found someone else, and that's the reason for the break up. Of all the times I've ever broken up with someone, not a single time was it for another girl. Ever. People are getting old and annoying on this site, quoting that. They're trying to convince themselves, by repeating the same rehashed, dead-horse-beating bs. You are one of the lucky ones being spared the torment and anguish of someone you love cheating on you. Good luck with your letter.
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