OFGnomore Posted June 24, 2009 Posted June 24, 2009 I don't wish bad things upon MOW- she and my H are/were just pathetic individuals. I don't believe in 'giving' karma or wishing it etc on someone else...it does fine all on its own. I hope it's merciful then to BOTH of them.
Author foreal Posted June 25, 2009 Author Posted June 25, 2009 I hope it's merciful then to BOTH of them. Hope hope hope... Keep hoping- Karma: an undeviating and unerring tendency in the Universe to restore equilibrium, and that it operates incessantly. Karma is inherent law and its operation must therefore be impersonal. Some might take this to be "merciless" but that would only be because they desire escape from consequences that are unpleasant. Mercy? Maybe...if it restores balance, then yea, they (and you) have a shot at mercy...if not....well, then, reap what you sow, or so the saying goes.... but again, it is not for me to decide...
Gamine Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 So, at some point I will run into her...she is MOW, still works with my H. She used to be a friend. We will see each other at a work event where spouces are invited. They had an 8 month PA...FWH and I are R and H wants nothing to do with her and is back with me totally. So what do I say? Do I acknowledge her at all? (some work people know we are 'friends', some do not). Any good one liners I can use? Or maybe one for my FWH to use? I want to burn her but remain dignified....if possible!! Anyone have experience with this? What did you do/say? I want her to know she lost, was never the real thing, and was always sloppy seconds....and that we are happier than ever now. I would hand her an invoice.
OFGnomore Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 I want to burn her but remain dignified....if possible!! Anyone have experience with this? What did you do/say? I want her to know she lost, was never the real thing, and was always sloppy seconds....and that we are happier than ever now. This doesn't sound like someone who wants the laws of the universe to handle matters. It sounds like someone who wants to punish.
NoIDidn't Posted June 25, 2009 Posted June 25, 2009 Wow, you are doing well for only two months out. While I do agree that being well and living well is the best revenge, I'm sure it only sounds trite at this point in your recovery. I can't speak from experience on this because I didn't have a personal relationship with the OW (I didn't know her), but I did have to run into her at company functions (she worked with H). I can say that I ignored her, but that's because I wouldn't have been able to identify her in a crowd. She followed me around at the first event we ended up together at, and I only knew because another co-worker said her name while we both washed our hands at the sink and she tried to run off afterwards. But I didn't know her, so its not really revelant. To be honest, anything you do or say will be judged as "hurt feelings" by anyone who knows. So, I say, what do you have to lose if you do give her the "stink eye" a time or two (so long as its not obvious to everyone else in the room as well, LOL). Indifference is always stated as a goal, but most fumble on the way to that goal anyway. Long of the short? Whatever comes naturally for you at the moment that won't get you banned from company functions, get your H fired, or land you in jail for the night. And if anyone else at the company knows about it (like they did at my H's company because SHE TOLD anyone that would listen when he ended it for good), that may work in your favor. Afterall, she didn't exactly act like a paragon of virtue in her pursuit of your H, did she?
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