jqb05443 Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 My bf of 3.5 years dumped me two months ago. During that time we talked here and there and hung out a few times and it was great. He knew I wanted to get back together but he just wasn't ready. I went away last week and before I left I gave him a card telling him how I felt and how I wanted to work on things. He said he would have to think about it while I was away. Well when I got home he was very distant and basically told me on Friday that he wants nothing more to do with me. Text messages were sent back and fourth until I asked him if we could hang out one last time and I never heard back from him again. I was crushed beyond words and really wanted to go NC for awhile but I am still finding it so hard. Anyway the point to this thread.. is he does taxes. My best friend told me that he screwed up on her sisters taxes and the sister is really pissed off. She told me that she wants a refund of what he did or she is going to contact his boss and let him know that she is unsatisfied and wants her money back. I want to call him to give him a heads up...but after he treated me and ignored my text messages I don't know if I should. I don't even know if he even cares to hear from me. Any advice? I really do want to give him the heads up
Treasa Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 I think you want to have a reason to get in contact with him, and to possibly have him be thankful to you for the heads up. Don't do it. This isn't your business at all. He's not even talking to you, so why make yourself look desperate by getting in contact with him? If anything it'll probably push him away even more, and probably make him resent you, as you'll have been the bearer of bad news.
Author jqb05443 Posted June 21, 2009 Author Posted June 21, 2009 I don't think he would get mad at me at all. I think he would actually appreciate the heads up...but maybe you are right. I am probably going to look desperate by calling. I just wanted to show him that I am the bigger person and that I wasn't calling him to make him get back together with me but for something work related that I know he would appreciate knowing ahead of time. If the sister does go ahead and do that I don't want him to think that I had anything to do with it and was making her do that to be spiteful to what he did to me
adamt Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 dont contact him let the sister contact him direct. he dumped you and hurt you so you dont need to contact him thinking you are doing him a favour; you will end up opening old wounds and set you back. he has said he wants nothing to do with you and his silence says it all
sugarmomma Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 Why would you want to talk to anyone that treated you so horribly? That is not your issue. Even if you tell him he won't want you back. Forget HIM!!
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