wopbamboom Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 Its the first time this has ever happened to me (thank God). I just feel a mixture of frustration, betrayal, humiliation, anger and worthlessness. It sounds cliche, but I never expected to be in this situation. I thought I could trust my partner 100%. I've been with my boyfriend for three years, and we practically live together. I'm 19, he's a few years older- and he was my first love. I invested so much into the relationship. Of course we had rocky patches, but nothing like this. He went to a party the other night and ended up with a girl I was at school with, and whom I don't particularly like or trust (I do realise that she isn't the one to blame, but I can't help but feel extremely angry at her...). He told me straight out. I think what makes it worse is that he said they had been discussing our relationship before they got together that night. I have a lot of friends who probably witnessed them flirting together, and the thought makes me sick. I just feel incredibly empty, and want to let off some steam. I've told him I never want to see or hear from him again. I still love him, though, and I know it'll be so difficult in the next few weeks/months. The last three years have, really, been all about my relationship, and I feel like my world has fallen to pieces. So, I guess, anybody have a similar experience? And how did you deal with it? Any really good ways of dealing with the pain? I know I seem incredibly naive, but seriously, I never expected to be in this situation...and its awful. Thanks xoxo
MrFun Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 Happened to me too a few times. I realised that it was my partner cheated on me. Just like a board, if you cheat, you can't win, you know? Even if you make first place, you're still a joke. Like you said, you invested a lot into the relationship, played honestly and HE cheated. There's not really a magic pill that can help you deal with the pain. Try not to dwell on the thought, stay busy, go NC and cut him out of your life no matter how difficult. Eventually you'll meet someone else, you'll invest everything again, and maybe next time everything will turn out great. Not all guys cheat (I've never cheated and I'm almost 34), by the sounds of it you did everything right. Good luck!
EmperorR Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 I know the feeling, ex fiance cheated with some scrub she just met and dumped me. I know how you feel so embarrased, sad, wondering why me I treated him/her so good but in the end nothing matters. The only thing I can say that helped me was time time and more time, as well as posting and reading on here. Do not contact him as it will just continue opening up the wounds, I know all to well. I know you feel like you wasted 3 good years of your life but you did not, you will learn alot about yourself after this situation trust me. The pain may seem unbearable now but soon it will fade, It's been almost ten months for me I still think about the cheat every day but there is no pain, no tears, just memories.
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