hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 I was discussing my issue with my family yesterday and i was just thinking how really utterly selfish she is. She cheated on ur previous husband for whatever reason and the next day after she broke up with me she was over a guys house. There were a lot of things that put red flags against her. She is disrespectful to her family a lot. She has changed some but also her ppls allow it to continue. My dad said the first sign he saw whas when she first met him she took off her shoes and got comfortable on the couch. I dont know he said that was a sign of not having respect. I allowed a lot to continue in the relationship b/c i love her. She is a dominating personality and i am more passive aggressive so she dictated a lot(i.e i didnt wear the pants). I was immature and i have learned a lot and i will neva compromise anything like that again i promise u that. I am a proponent of compromise but i WILL NOT tolerate bullshyt anymore if u like dat then deuces(peace out). She has been talkin the guy a lot lately on the phone sometimes late nite and she willing calls him. She says she is not in love with me and i feel like she doesnt respect me or care for me. I wonder why i still love her so much cuz she doesnt deaserve my love. I do want her back for a crazy reason maybe cuz it is still fresh but my ppls said leave her alone. She is a great gurl and i want her to be with me but i will not force someone who doesnt want to be with me and doesnt respect me. I am trying NC and will start loving myself first then someone can share that love with and for me.
Groovy Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 It's sounds like your doing the right thing. If you had any love for yourself you'd want someone to love you like you deserve. It doesn't sound like she does that. Sometimes what we want is not what we need. It sounds like your recognizing a negative pattern in your relationships. We all have these and the big thing is we are aware and in our next relationship avoid someone who carries those behaviors. Sometimes what feels natural to us is not in our best interest either. Good luck!
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