Raderick Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 One of my biggest turn-offs is others dating around the same time as me. Don't ask why, but I don't like the sense of having to compete for someone's heart with other guys at the same time, especially if I am dating after she is seeing someone for a few weeks or months (see one of my earlier threads). I turned down a potential date with someone knowing that she is dating two other guys, but I still remain in contact with her. I guess my only reason for feeling this way is because I tend to hit the panic button and tend to take things much more seriously and speed things up much more than needed. When I do, I don't tend to be myself and thus give off the wrong signals, or give incorrect information. I also get the sense that she is dating around for the sake of dating, while I am dating with the potential for a relationship down the road, if it works out that way. I fully understand the "feeling out" process and all, but I kinda hope I'm not alone in this. And if I am, what is the best approach to turning this "turn-off" into something just normal?
lab_brat Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 You're not alone in this. I don't really see the utility of dating around. I'll see someone once or twice, but if i'm not into it, i won't go out with them again. If i'm into them i won't date anyone else. Even if its just a FWB thing. And i don't think i'd date a guy thats dating other women at the same time: i figure that i'm young, cute and smart, i shouldn't have to share my toys!
Angelordevil Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 I feel the same way. I have been seeing the same guy for a couple months now and have no desire to see anyone else. I just don't know if he's on the same page with me and am not sure how to ask without sounding needy.
Author Raderick Posted June 21, 2009 Author Posted June 21, 2009 You're not alone in this. I don't really see the utility of dating around. I'll see someone once or twice, but if i'm not into it, i won't go out with them again. If i'm into them i won't date anyone else. Even if its just a FWB thing. And i don't think i'd date a guy thats dating other women at the same time: i figure that i'm young, cute and smart, i shouldn't have to share my toys! Phew. I was kinda hoping I wasn't alone in this, which is I guess good news.
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