drivesmecrazy3 Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 So i was friends with a girl for a good 7-8 months. Just friends, but i knew she liked me. Shes always mostly been the type of girl that likes *******s and badasses, which i am not. She is also the kind of girl that loves to chase and obsess over guys. We ended up getting closer, talking more and hanging out alot more often. We even started to get physical, not sex, but physical. She told me so many nice things and always said how she felt so comfortable and open with me. I thought things were going great I really did. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, she says how im too nice for her, and that she no longer felt a connection. She also told me to start talking to/hanging out with other girls (I was shocked that she said this, because shes really a jealous person). So i was heartbroken and ignored her for a day. She constantly told me that she really liked me as a friend and really wanted to keep talking to me. I dont know if i should have but i continued. About a week ago i started talking to another girl. Now, I know for a fact nothing is gonna happen between us two, but i just looked at it as somthing to keep my mind off the other girl. This new girl started giving me lots of facebook comments that made it obvious that we were talking. All of a sudden, the girl i was crazy over started asking lots of questions, and always said things like "oh does your new girl do this, that, this" she asked if we hooked up, etc. All of a sudden, she says shes going to be near my neighborhood, and asked if I wanted to meet her. Im an idiot, i did. We ended up getting really physical, and it made me happy. But now it hurts so bad, i know she has interests in other guys, and i dont understand why she wanted to see me again and do that. What should i do? what does she want? Do you think i could get her back? im like going crazy, i totally obsess over this girl, and if she gets with someone else I am going to be so much more heartbroken. it made me feel so good today to see her reach in to kiss ME, its not like i made moves on her, she came forward to me. Like i know she had no intentions of going back to how things were, but she did it anyway, and now knowing that hurts. What can i do?
boogieboy Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 See she said you were too nice for her and bailed on you. Your niceness made her lose her attraction for you, or some other wild reason that was roaming around in her head. You might have not been a challenge for her anymore, too nice usually means too available for her every whim. That is a turnoff for anyone. Now When she saw that you were strongly desired by the other girl, she got jealous that she let go of you. MAny women like guys that are overtly desired by other women. Its a competition thing. You might be able to get her back, but you have to make her work for it. You have to be a challenge. You have to act like youre seeing 3 women at once and you dont have time for her. And you have to act like she wasnt important, and she will never be important to you. Thats the bad-boy persona. Truth is, shes not worth your time really, so you have to make sure youre not wearing your heart on your sleeve when you start interacting with her again. And make sure the new girl is still leaving comments on your facebook. Keep seeing her. Got all that?
Author drivesmecrazy3 Posted June 21, 2009 Author Posted June 21, 2009 well, basically, last night she started mentioning the "other girl" again, and i asked her if it bothered her. She said it didnt bother her but she thought that it was grimy that i was basically hooking up with two girls. When I asked her why she hooked up with me that day, she said because she "liked to" and that im "fun," sort of pointing out that there were no emotional reasons for it. Now, I asked if she wanted me me to drive to her neighborhood soon to visit/chill with her, and she said somthing like "not when you have another boo." She had been "talking" to another guy, but they hadnt hooked up, and they basically stopped talking yesterday because he said somthing wierd or whatever. The whole idea of me talking to this other girl in the first place was mainly to make this girl jealous, and now that she knows i am, i dont feel any better lol. I feel like now, with her thinking that someone else is in the picture, where in reality there isnt (i hungout with this new girl once and it isnt serious), that she is just going to go find someone else. What do you think?
boogieboy Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 You dont have a choice, she left you. She wanted to find someone else in the first place. You have to keep up the facade if you want any chance at getting her back, but like I said, you cant count on it. And you cant go asking her out, you have to wait for her to come to you, and you cant keep talking to her every day. Have some restraint!
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