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Dealing with my recent break-up ... I really want her back.


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Okay a little background info about my past relationship.

 

Me and my girlfriend have been dating since our freshman year in high school. It has been a rocky road with the usual up's and downs just like most high school relationships.

 

Our relationship has been going strong for 4 years until this year, we made a bad decision and I ended up getting her pregnant.

 

I wanted to keep the baby but she said having a kid at her age would be really hard for us and possibly ruin her modeling career. This was one of the most selfish things I've ever heard someone say. How can you kill a baby just because you might have a chance at being a model?

 

Anyways, we have recently broke up because of everything that has been happening but I'm having a really hard time getting over her because we were together almost everyday for soooo long.

 

We still talk all the time and we might end up getting back together but I would like to do everything in power to make sure we stay together.

 

I was reading some articles about relationship advice and how to get your ex back after a recent break up and I came across a website that had some pretty good information. The website was www.pullyourexbackforever.com

 

There was a product on the site that looks like it gives pretty good advice on getting back into your ex's life. I'm just wondering if anyone has tried it and is it worth getting? I'm not too worried about spending the money I just want my girlfriend back =( .

 

Any advice or information would be greatly appreciated!

 

 

Thanks,

Brian

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WoW looks like there are a lot of people going through the same thing I am. I'm going to go ahead and buy the product and I'll let you know how it goes and if its worth it. Wish me luck!

 

 

Regards,

Brian

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That book is alright. It basically tells you to go No Contact for about 30 days. And not to spend that time obsessing about her, but to hit the gym, buy some new clothes, just improve yourself and keep busy. Then if the 30 days alone hasn't brought her back on it's own, it says it's OK to be the one to make contact, keep it casual, ask to go out for coffee or something.

 

Your situation is tricky. Many high school relationships don't last, especially after graduating. Throw a pregnancy into the mix and it gets even harder. It may sound selfish that she's worried about being a model, but at her age, if she had plans for her life, and a baby wasn't one of them, she deserves to feel that way. I'm not saying it's right or wrong to abort the pregnancy, but she has the right to not be thrilled about it.

 

If you guys are still talking constantly then you're already not doing what Step 1 of that book is going to tell you.

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Ok thanks Exit that's exactly the feedback I was looking for and I appreciate it very much.

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Don't waste your money on the book. The people here will give you the same kind of advice that all of those programs tell you. Don't beg, send gifts, act depressed. Go NC to allow the emotions to settle down and hope she misses you.

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i agree just read forums like this one to research and find similar situation. over time the mist clears and you can see your situation clearer. you can tell by the design of the websites that its just a money making scheme to get you to buy a book when you are vunerable. at least of forums it involves real people and real situations

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Don't waste your money on the book. The people here will give you the same kind of advice that all of those programs tell you. Don't beg, send gifts, act depressed. Go NC to allow the emotions to settle down and hope she misses you.

 

You are already making the big mistake of still talking to her.

 

She can't miss you if you are still there.

 

And I'm sure you talk about missing each other, etc.

You are HELPING HER grieve for the relationship.

You are helping her get over you.

That is what happens when you stay in contact (been there done it - wrote the book).

 

She will work through the pain of missing you -- she will adjust you to best friend status ans find a new man to be with.

 

Stop now while you still may have a chance.

 

As tough as it is to go NC it is your ONLY hope.

If you do not do it - you will be categorized as just a friend and replaced.

 

If she does come back -- this may be even harder for you than the NC so be forewarned. DO NOT JUST JUMP IN.

 

Once damaged like this it has to be rebuilt slowly.

She has to know that she walked and can't just come back and pick up where you left off.

She has to know she better stay and work it out if something happens because you just may not be there to walk back TO.

 

If you just snap back together -- then she knows your life didn't change - you didn't move on in the slightest - you sat around and waited and all that empty time that you used to spend with her was still open (nothing and nobody to fill it).

 

I wish you luck dude.

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Good points by Island Girl.

 

I sense that there's a potential for getting back with my ex, and I know the hardest part is still ahead of me... not taking her back too easily. After hurting for this long it's tempting to just take someone back and go on like everything is normal. But that would be a huge mistake.

 

Of course I'm speaking theoretically, I don't know if she's coming back. But I know I cannot let myself make it easy for her.

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