mortensorchid Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 Well, you could give him SOMEONE ELSE's number when they ask. But that's not very nice, is it? I simply say "NO" when they ask for my number when I'm not interested. If they ask why, I simply tell them "I'm not interested, thank you". If they persist, I rip into them with a string of curses and scare them away.
Author EddieN Posted June 21, 2009 Author Posted June 21, 2009 Well, you could give him SOMEONE ELSE's number when they ask. But that's not very nice, is it? I simply say "NO" when they ask for my number when I'm not interested. If they ask why, I simply tell them "I'm not interested, thank you". If they persist, I rip into them with a string of curses and scare them away. That's nice. I've got a fake number once, and I don't blame the girl because I unintentionally insulted her friends. Thought I would still try, though. Besides that, I've gotten all real numbers and never got a direct NO when I asked. Later, though, when I call, the girls reject or ignore me. I'm just wondering why they have to make things that more complex, and why they would give their number out so freely.
dreamergrl Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 Nope. I'm a firm believer in not leading a person on.
DarkestDreams Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 Well, you could give him SOMEONE ELSE's number when they ask. But that's not very nice, is it? Yeah, I was that someone on two separate ocassions! I have no idea why my friends gave out my number, but the guys didn't seem too phased and tried hooking up with me anyway. Nothing deters the desperate ones Personally, I don't give out my number or a fake one or someone else's (not cool at all), I just tell them I'm not interested or, if they can't take no for an answer, give them my yahoo id..the account that I never check.
WineCountry Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 That's nice. I've got a fake number once, and I don't blame the girl because I unintentionally insulted her friends. Thought I would still try, though. Besides that, I've gotten all real numbers and never got a direct NO when I asked. Later, though, when I call, the girls reject or ignore me. I'm just wondering why they have to make things that more complex, and why they would give their number out so freely. No, but I did at least once I think. And it was because I was too much of a chicken to just say I wasnt interested. But that was years ago, and I would not do that now.
dreamergrl Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 This reminds me of a funny story... There used to be a number. I looked like any old number, and it even looked like a number from my area. When you called the number it said.... "You have reached the reject hotline. The person who gave you this number is not interested. It could have been your breath, maybe that you're 40 and still live at home. Perhaps you have a clown fetish. Don't feel bad, there's someone out there for everyone, if not, there's always hookers." And it went on and on for like 5 minutes. I laughed my arse off. And no, I did not receive this number.
Intricategirl Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 If I'm not interested at all, no way. If they seem like a nice guy but I'm not into them, I'll tell them I'm not interested. If they're jerks or weirdos, I usually give them a look that says, "Would you kindly p*ss off?" Now, if I'm undecided, I'll usually give them my cell number. It's really easy to block people, so if I'm not interested but they keep calling me, I can always cut them off easily. (Incidentally, I did this to my ex. Blocked his number, no texts or calls, and if he needs to reach me about an emergency related to the kids, he'll have to get in touch by calling my mom and having her call me. That will be just about detestable enough to him that he wouldn't consider it except in a true emergency. )
Mary3 Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 Nope. I'm a firm believer in not leading a person on. I LOVE this answer
EmptyPromises Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 i have! never when i was with someone tho..i feel so bad saying no!
Author EddieN Posted June 21, 2009 Author Posted June 21, 2009 No, but I did at least once I think. And it was because I was too much of a chicken to just say I wasnt interested. But that was years ago, and I would not do that now. Well the girls I'm dealing with are 19-22 or so. Usually when I go to a party I manage to get at least one number from a girl. So far, with the ones who I ASKED for a number, they've all gone nowhere, and every time I was 100% sure it was the right number. One time, I called a girl a day or two after the party I met her at. Our conversation went like this: Her: "Hellllooooo?" Me: "Hey, Emily? This is Ed, from that party the other night." Her: "Ohhh, gooood byeeeee!" *hang up* Pretty rude, but I don't get it. She gave me her number JUST to be an ass to me when I call? I'm not an ass to girls when I talk to them at parties, and I usually wait a while before getting a number. Any girl I asked and got a number from, I was usually talking with her for a good 20 minutes or so, and she didn't seem like she wanted to get away at all. I'm pretty cool about that...if I can sense that a girl isn't digging me, I don't push it, I just stay polite and move on. A few nights ago I was at a party and got this girl's number. I did this after talking with her for the last 20-30 minutes of our time at the party, walking her back to her car (it was night and she was parked far), and she insisted on driving me back to my car. I only called her a day or two ago so I'm not ruling out the possibility of her still calling, but she had to be pretty comfortable around me to offer me a ride and trust me to walk her back. I'm not losing sleep over this girl and I really don't care if she never calls (I wasn't really expecting to meet anyone that night, so meeting her was a nice bonus), but I'm just wondering why someone would give a new person her number when she doesn't want to talk again.
Curious-One Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Well i use coupla tricks to make sure that the number is real. First one i do is i call the number right away so that she can have my number too. Ofcourse i tell the girl , let me give you a call so you have my number too. If her phone rings she gave me the right number if it doesnt ring than something is wrong and i would know it right away. I have never gotten a fake number btw...This is actually cool because usually they put my phone number in the phone right away so when i call they already know its me. Some girls will not pickup numbers that they dont recognize. Second one is if i want to be extra smooth. When she is giving me her number i will read it back but say one number wrong. If she corrects me the number is REAL!
cyril's fan Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Well i use coupla tricks to make sure that the number is real. First one i do is i call the number right away so that she can have my number too. Ofcourse i tell the girl , let me give you a call so you have my number too. If her phone rings she gave me the right number if it doesnt ring than something is wrong and i would know it right away. I have never gotten a fake number btw...This is actually cool because usually they put my phone number in the phone right away so when i call they already know its me. Some girls will not pickup numbers that they dont recognize. Second one is if i want to be extra smooth. When she is giving me her number i will read it back but say one number wrong. If she corrects me the number is REAL! It's not foolproof. I have friends who still don't pick up calls from these guys even if they gave the right numbers (under pressure).
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 This reminds me of a funny story... There used to be a number. I looked like any old number, and it even looked like a number from my area. When you called the number it said.... "You have reached the reject hotline. The person who gave you this number is not interested. It could have been your breath, maybe that you're 40 and still live at home. Perhaps you have a clown fetish. Don't feel bad, there's someone out there for everyone, if not, there's always hookers." And it went on and on for like 5 minutes. I laughed my arse off. And no, I did not receive this number. It's still out there. You inspired me to look for it. LOL Google "Rejection Hotline." You can either go to their website, or the 3rd result down called "funphonenumbers" has the full list of numbers for ALL states. Kind of out of date, though - 3 of the 4 for my state don't work. And the answer is no - I wouldn't do that. I'd just tell him "no."
Lyssa Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Nope, I don't understand why some women would give their numbers out when they are not interested in that guy at all. Oh and one more thing, friends that think it's alright to give out your number without asking for your permission! Arrghhh!!
bac Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 yes, I give my number. Moreover I have sex with men who I am not interested at all.
dreamergrl Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 It's still out there. You inspired me to look for it. LOL Google "Rejection Hotline." You can either go to their website, or the 3rd result down called "funphonenumbers" has the full list of numbers for ALL states. Kind of out of date, though - 3 of the 4 for my state don't work. And the answer is no - I wouldn't do that. I'd just tell him "no." LOL that's funny it's still around! I'd maybe give it to a creep guy who wouldn't take no for an answer.
Lizzie60 Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 So, do you? And why would you? It happened before.. just to get rid of him.. (but I gave him a wrong number...)
stace79 Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 I have a few times, most often b/c I feel guilty totally shutting him down. But I typically cringe when he calls and try to avoid calls or calling back.
Awesome84 Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 I think I only do it when I'm not sure and then I've had time to think it over and I'm like 'Nah... No Thanks!' But I'm like a 'commitment phobe'...
Cora Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 I guess I should really learn how to say NO when a guy asks for my number and I'm not interested. I had a horrible experience with this once. There was this really creepy stalker guy who worked and went to school at the military base where I worked and went to school as well. This was a guy who wouldn't take no for an answer when he wanted a ride home from me one night at class. I told him no I couldn't take him home because my class was getting ready to start....figured he would go away. I get out of my four hour class to find him waiting in the lobby for me. He then persisted in following me out to my car which really creeped me out because it was late at night. I did not give him a ride home but he kept coming by my office on a daily basis where I worked and one day he asked for my number. So I made up some fake number. I should of just said no to him but I wonder if he would of taken that for an answer after what happened that night after class. Anyway, this was a guy who very rarely attended the church I went to. That Sunday he made it a point to attend and walked right up to where my family and I were seated.....sat right down between my brother and I and said "you know that was not cool what you did and it was very mean!" Oh I was so mortified!!! My family kept asking me who was that and what was that all about? He really creeped me out but thank goodness I never saw him again after that! Everytime a guy asks me for my number now I have flashbacks. I do say no a lot more now though because I guess I'm just always afraid of the guy coming back and tracking me down later for giving him the wrong number.
Author EddieN Posted June 23, 2009 Author Posted June 23, 2009 I guess I should really learn how to say NO when a guy asks for my number and I'm not interested. I had a horrible experience with this once. There was this really creepy stalker guy who worked and went to school at the military base where I worked and went to school as well. This was a guy who wouldn't take no for an answer when he wanted a ride home from me one night at class. I told him no I couldn't take him home because my class was getting ready to start....figured he would go away. I get out of my four hour class to find him waiting in the lobby for me. He then persisted in following me out to my car which really creeped me out because it was late at night. I did not give him a ride home but he kept coming by my office on a daily basis where I work and one day he asked for my number. So I made up some fake number. I should of just said no to him but I wonder if he would of taken that for an answer after what happened that night after class. Anyway, this was a guy who very rarely attended the church I went to. That Sunday he made it a point to attend and walked right up to where my family and I were seated.....sat right down between my brother and I and said "you know that was not cool what you did and it was very mean!" Oh I was so mortified!!! My family kept asking me who was that and what was that all about? He really creeped me out but thank goodness I never saw him again after that! Everytime a guy asks me for my number now I have flashbacks. I do say no a lot more now though because I guess I'm just always afraid of the guy coming back and tracking me down later for giving him the wrong number. That's gotta be a tough situation. You have the choice of having him flip out on you on the spot, or appeasing him for the moment, only to get him more pissed off later. But you see, I'm not anything like these creepy guys women here are referring to. I take no for an answer. When I pick up that a girl isn't digging me that much, I don't push anything. The only time I ask for a number is when I'm confident the girl is comfortable with me.
xxxheartbrokenxxx Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 No way, what would be the point??? Also, what if you gave your number to someone you were not keen on at all, and they started to call you persistantly? I would also worry that they would drunk dial me at stupid o'clock! Im very careful who I give my number out to.
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