hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 well my gf broke up with 2 wks ago and said she is not in love with me. She said that she was missing something in the relationship which is emotional connection. We started out kinda on shaky grounds. She was separated and there was constantly back and forth with her initially. Then that created mistrust in my feelings cuz i didnt want to be vunerable and then get dissed cuz she didnt know what she wanted. Now suddenly i feel she is talking on the phone/seeing another guy so soon. Her justification is that she doesnt love me like that so it is easier for her to move on. I am completely devestated over this. Could you ever get emotional connection if you dont start out with it? I just think we had so many issues to deal with in the beginning that we were unable to find it. We get along great and we have a good time together. I know we can rekindle it(maybe false hope??) but i am trying the NC thing and i guess if she really wants me again she will let me know right? I just cant stand the fact i feel another guy is wooing her but she is allowing it so that is her perogative i guess. i am addicted to her love and i need to go to rehab.
motive2002 Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 Unrequited love is like holding onto a hot frying pan. It will hurt like hell until you decide to let go. It's not going to be easy. The thoughts of her will come into your mind and there you are trying to pick up that frying pan again. If she's into some other guy, it ain't gonna happen. If her and the new guy don't work out, remember that frying pan. She hurt you once. She doesn't have to hurt you a second time. Let go. Easier said than done I know. I still have my own letting go to do. That's what brought me here. You can figure that unless the person has been brutally honest about everything in their life that 90% of what they say during a breakup is bull****. Why? The are assuaging guilt for hurting someone else. They know they don't feel that way about you anymore, but they don't want to come off as "the bad guy". It's the same old cowardly pattern I've seen over and over. You gotta just let go of her altogether and move on. I'm not saying it's easy, but that's what you gotta do.
Trialbyfire Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 OP, sad to say but you were either the exit affair or the rebound. That's why it was such an emotional roller coaster, when you first got together. I would consider this one a learning experience and write it off, moving on as soon as possible. She's already swung to another branch so there's no use holding on.
boogieboy Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 OP, sad to say but you were either the exit affair or the rebound. That's why it was such an emotional roller coaster, when you first got together. I would consider this one a learning experience and write it off, moving on as soon as possible. She's already swung to another branch so there's no use holding on. In addition to that, be wary of the the roller coaster situation if you run into it again in the beginning. its not supposed to be like that.
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