vertical Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 .. for my girlfriend. We have been seeing each other for almost 2 months now and because of her religous circumstances we cant hang out that much. We cant even let it be known that we are dating for fear of her parents finding out and sending her away to her grandparents. But nontheless we are in love and we are holding really strong together. The restrictions mean nothing and we just hang out when we can and we talk on the phone as much as possible. But i want to do something special for her. I cant think of anything really, but i want to do something that will just blow her away. Anyone know of anything that i can do for her without letting her parents know i did? I dont NEED to do anything, i just want to. Any suggestions?
missdependant Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 Bake her some cupcakes. :-) Is it just her parents that disapprove or do your parents also disapprove? How old are you guys?
alphamale Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 .. But i want to do something special for her. I cant think of anything really, but i want to do something that will just blow her away. Anyone know of anything that i can do for her without letting her parents know i did? I dont NEED to do anything, i just want to. Any suggestions? i need to know if you two are sleeping together or not? my suggestion would depend on your answer
Author vertical Posted June 20, 2009 Author Posted June 20, 2009 I am 18, she is 16. We are not sleeping together. The topic has been brought up and she wants to wait until she is 18 and doesnt have to live with her parents religous restrictions any more. Well i live with my grandma and she could care less if i date someone. The only thing is that she is one of those people who likes things to be completley honest. If i told her she would either ask me to break up with her or tell her parents about us. Either that or she would just tell them for me. So, any suggestions?
wuggle Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 Difficult without more info. If you are in US then less socially acceptable for her to leave her parents at 16 than in he UK, maybe even illegal in some states (don't know just speculating). Whether she would move in with you depends on whether you have your own place. Does she have any educational or career ambitions that you could support her through until she is older. What religion are her parents ?, why the secrets now ? Really need more info , any advice without this would be useless and possibly arrogant.
Author vertical Posted June 20, 2009 Author Posted June 20, 2009 No i dont want her to move in with me lol. Her parents just dont want her to do anything with boys until she is 18. I just want to do something nice for her that will make her jump out of her shoes. I just have to be careful about not letting the parents know.
wuggle Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 Then I would recommend that you approach her parents and tell them you love her but respect their wishes for their daughter. Explain to them that you do not intend to get in the way of her studies or to pressure her into sex. Explain that you only want the best and ask if you may be allowed to date her openly. Claim her but in a respectful way. This would be a lovely surprise for her, that someone is prepared to stand up and be counted for her. A bit like the scene in dirty dancing where he says "no-one puts baby in the corner" - women love that sort of thing (not that i've seen that film of course, it's way too girly for me )
Author vertical Posted June 20, 2009 Author Posted June 20, 2009 We have already talked it over, and decided to wait like this until she is 18. I do not wish to do something THAT special lol. I mean i am, but not in that area. I meant, i cant buy her anything because her parents will ask where she got it. I just want to do something special for her that she will get excited about. Thanks though.
alphamale Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 We have already talked it over, and decided to wait like this until she is 18. I do not wish to do something THAT special lol. I mean i am, but not in that area. I meant, i cant buy her anything because her parents will ask where she got it. I just want to do something special for her that she will get excited about. Thanks though. why not take her out for a nice steak dinner. her parents will never suspect unless they can x-ray her colon
wuggle Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 Okay, other ideas, not THAT special :- A small tatoo of her name (bit tacky but shows comittment). Buy her a nice ring or other small item and get her to not wear it but hide it (a shared secret, slightly dangerous) any good or should I try to think of more ?
Author vertical Posted June 20, 2009 Author Posted June 20, 2009 Haha, thats what i was thinking of alpha. Just a nice dinner. I'm still looking though. I could buy her something, but like i said she cant have her parents see it, so it would be worthless for her to have since she could never wear it. A tattoo... well she is just my girlfriend. Maybe after marriage, but not at girlfriend status lol. Thanks though, those are all good ideas. I just want something a little different. Sorry im so picky about this
anne1707 Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 How about a picnic which you have prepared from scratch. Simple but can be very romantic.
alphamale Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 Haha, thats what i was thinking of alpha. Just a nice dinner. I'm still looking though. take her for an unusual dinner somewhere that is more than 20 miles away...that way you reduce the chances of running into any of her family friends or relative. there are some nicer restaurants that do theme dinners and other restaurants than involve a short train ride...something like that
Author vertical Posted June 20, 2009 Author Posted June 20, 2009 take her for an unusual dinner somewhere that is more than 20 miles away...that way you reduce the chances of running into any of her family friends or relative. there are some nicer restaurants that do theme dinners and other restaurants than involve a short train ride...something like that There is a nice roof top dining place about 30 minutes from here. Maybe that would be good? I could try a picnic too, because then i can pick a desolate place, but which is better?
alphamale Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 There is a nice roof top dining place about 30 minutes from here. Maybe that would be good? yes that would be good... I could try a picnic too, because then i can pick a desolate place, but which is better? naah, i'd save the picnic for after you take her virginity in a few years.
anne1707 Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 naah, i'd save the picnic for after you take her virginity in a few years. Forever the true romantic! OP - not sure how old you are but it may be at the moment that some restaurants are not going to make you both feel comfortable and relaxed.
Author vertical Posted June 20, 2009 Author Posted June 20, 2009 Forever the true romantic! OP - not sure how old you are but it may be at the moment that some restaurants are not going to make you both feel comfortable and relaxed. The one i was talking about will. They wont mind. And ok, lol alpha, i will wait till then.
missdependant Posted June 21, 2009 Posted June 21, 2009 which is better? Picnic. And don't listen to the tattoo idea, don't do it!!!!!!!
Author vertical Posted June 23, 2009 Author Posted June 23, 2009 Well apparently her parents dont want her to leave her sight without confirming with her friends parents where she is going to be. Over protective again, because of the same religious beliefs and such. So a dinner is out of the question. Is there something i could say to her perhaps? Or maybe something i could do that doesnt invovle her parents knowing?
collegekid491 Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 its not the price tag that counts its the idea. last valentines day i did a random box of items for gf. costed me like $20 and had about 20 things pertaining to a specific time we shared or story she told me. for instance, she travels alot so a map glued to card board with toy darts to help her choose where to go next, a button on a charm bracelet for the first movie we saw together (benjamin button), and just small stuff like that.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Going on the jewelry theme that someone mentioned before. Something "secret." How about an anklet? It doesn't have to cost much, but is easy to conceal. Something with a heart. Then you can tell her that anytime she wears it, she can think of you. I can think of hundreds of scenarios when she could wear it around family and they wouldn't have a clue.
Author vertical Posted June 23, 2009 Author Posted June 23, 2009 Well of course, i dont care how much it costs as long as she is reminded of me when she sees it. An anklet is a very good idea though. Maybe i could get a custom engraved one and have it say something really nice. She could just tell her parents one of her friends got it for her or something if they saw it. Thanks.
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