jamiesjealous Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 OK i have been with my current boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. Jealousy has never been a problem till we got much closer this past year. I love him very much but i am insecure about myself which i have found to make me jealous. we both work on the beach together and i am always worried hes looking at the other females thinking they might be better than me and i know i shouldnt. he has never givin me any reason to be jealous and im afraid it will ruin our relationship. He has told me many times no matter what he would stay with me and pick me over anybody because he loves me but i continue to be jealous. I feel i am not pretty and i know alot of the other girls are better looking than me and even tho i know he comes home with me i cant help it. I dont want to feel this way because it bothers him but i just dont wanna lose him to someone else, or lose him because im so jealous. He looks at playboy and it never botherd me before its not like he stares at them he looks at them once and doesnt really touch them again but for some reason it just makes me feel im not good enough that he has to look at other naked women. I need some advice pleaseeeee! i dont wanna feel this way anymore. he means everything to me and i dontt wanna lose him over something that i can resolve.. Thankkk you.
missdependant Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 If you are serious about advice, and if you can handle constructive criticism you're in a good place. 95% of the girls that come on here turn the advice away or get defensive, so it gets pretty annoying offering suggestions. It doesn't matter if it's the beach, if it's a restaurant, a club; it could be maxim magazine.. there will ALWAYS be other attractive women in the world. This is something you have no control over. It wouldn't matter if you were Jenna Jameson; he'd STILL be looking at other girls and finding them attractive. You are not the only girl in the world, and you're not the only attractive girl in the world. In his eyes, you may be the most attractive right now. But if you keep up this behavior, I can guarantee that it will send him running away. There was another thread made here recently that has some info that you might find helpful. The thread's main topic was porn, but it can be applied to your situation as well. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t191732/ If you're serious about fixing the problem, counseling might be your best option. No one here can tell you how to feel confident or how to fix your insecurity issues, everyone is different and everyone needs different things. But I CAN say that having some confidence and self-esteem can be very beneficial.
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