neveragain2493 Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 This does not make me a slut. I am barely ever in a relationship, and I am at a rare point in which I find guys that like me at one time... rather, they found me. Guy 1: I met this guy last weekend, and I hear he is great from everyone. He is adorable, and we get along great. We are talking a bit. However, one of my good friends likes him. I would not do something like that to her. Guy 2: I've been talking in general to this guy for awhile. He is sweet and funny. I've heard he's cool as well. However, he's starting the 'babe/baby' thing, and I can't stand that. I get a vibe that he can be a bit mean or jealous. Guy 3: This guy is a real gentleman, but he's extremely clingy. He's not exactly 'my type' since he's very country. We haven't gone to dinner yet, but he is telling me he's falling for me. His morals and values are great, but he falls in and out of love quickly and wears his heart on his sleeve. Guy 4: I mostly fall for the guys that hurt me, but this one is more my type. He is very open minded, funny, and flirty. He is an Athiest, I'm a Christian, but we get along well. When he talked to me, though, it was mostly about sex (though he's not the 'hit it and quit it' type). Any advice on which ones are good and bad? No criticism, just someone to listen. I'm not leading anybody on here.
Prodigal Princess Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 The only guy I would not be pursuing anything with is Guy 3. You're clearly not into him either so why waste your time. As for the others: Guy 1 - if he is the one contacting you, you are not being disloyal to your friend. I'd definitely have a chat to her about it though before things get romantical. Guy 2 - wait and see. You could always test him by mentioning another guy when talking to him and see how he reacts; the vibe might be in your imagination. Guy 4 - sounds like a player to me, but no harm in having fun with him. I'm assuming these are all guys you know in real life (i.e. not online)? Also, have any of them actually asked you out yet?
Author neveragain2493 Posted June 20, 2009 Author Posted June 20, 2009 I've mentioned once to Guy 2 that his friend talked to me, and he said, "Oh hell no! He is not going to take you from me!" Hence the vibe. Yes, I know them all. Yes, they've all asked me out..
Prodigal Princess Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 Was he being playful, or serious? If he was serious, I'd run.
Thornton Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 Guy 1 sounds great. Your friend liking him makes no difference; doesn't he get a say in who he wants to be with? If he likes you and not your friend, it's just tough. Guy 2 sounds fine, but if he is mean and jealous you need to back off from him. Nobody wants a mean and jealous boyfriend. If you don't like him calling you babe, tell him so, especially if it's the only thing bugging you. I doubt if his comment about another guy taking you away was serious. Guy 3 sounds fine too, but you say he's not your type - do you find him attractive? I prefer men who wear their heart on their sleeve and are honest with their feelings because I don't like playing games, but if he falls in and out of love quickly it's worrying in case he changes his mind about you after you're emotionally invested. Guy 4 sounds nice, but I'd be worried about the fact that he's an atheist and you're a Christian. In my experience such relationships often don't work when the partners have very different beliefs. But if you think you could handle your differences it might work out. I'd be worried about him mostly talking about sex though - he's either a player, or he's very insecure and is trying to build himself up in your eyes.
Author neveragain2493 Posted June 21, 2009 Author Posted June 21, 2009 Thanks for the advice.. and no, he was not joking. Guy 3 told me he sneaked off to see his ex last night and still likes her. He changes love interests like he changes underwear. Never mind him. The reason I am asking was because the last guy I liked ran back to his ex without telling me. I want to make sure the one I want isn't such a coward.
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