Al Posted October 31, 2003 Posted October 31, 2003 My boyfriend of 5 years broke up and he started dating someone else. Only that's not my problem b/c I have a new boyfriend. My problem is that since then, my ex and I'll call her "Kathy" have broken up. "Kathy" was never nice to me until her and my ex broke up. I can't say that we are good friends but we do chit chat once and a while when we see each other out. My ex now recently got dumped by another girl that "Kathy" hates. "Kathy" calls me all the time about how she's worried about my ex, and how this girl is talking **** about him, etc. Now whenever I see her out, my ex is all she talks about with me. I feel bad for the guy but I've moved on with someone else and my ex and I have been broken up for more that two years. How do I politely tell this girl that I don't want to talk about him anymore. My current boyfriend also doesn't appreciate the fact that I end up having conversations about my ex while we are out. I don't want to piss her off but like I said we really aren't best friends by any means and we never were. I guess I just don't like to have enemies but I consider my past, my past and hate having to visit it with my ex's ex. What do I do?
ArdeaCandidissima Posted November 8, 2003 Posted November 8, 2003 Real easy. You just say, "Sorry, I can't talk right now. I'm awfully busy. Maybe some other time." Repeat until message is understood. End of story.
Jilly Posted November 8, 2003 Posted November 8, 2003 Just say you're sorry to hear he has girlfriend problems but you have moved on, and it's not fair to your new boyfriend to have to keep hearing about your ex. "You understand, don't you?" and she'll soon take the hint. Sounds to me though that SHE hasn't let go and needs to talk about him, and who better than someone else who's dated him. Be firm but be nice.
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