saxycat2014 Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Ok, so i'll make this short, plain, and simple without confusing you. My boyfriend and I had been together basically throughout all of high school, we got together second semester freshman year. We just graduated in May, and I'm going to a college 2.5 hours away from home while he is going to college in our home town. Aside from this distance and the time commitment of college, there really isn't anything going against our relationship. However, we both decided to break up and see what else was out there, assuring that we had made the right choice and wouldn't regret it. We both strongly believe in the quote if you love something let it go, if it comes back to you it's yours. However, since we didn't have any issues, arguments and such as that, that led to the break up, we want to have a friendship from this. Any suggestions in making a friendship work?? Personal opinions on the possibilities of us getting back together later in life?? any comfort as i'm feeling weak and burdened with emotion and just needed an out.
LisaUk Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Hi, I think it will be difficult for you to be friends once one or both of you start dating. Perhaps if you can agree no gf/bf talk and just catch up from time to time it might work. As for the getting back together I don't know. I just got dumped by my fiance who I had been with 18 years since high school. I still don't know why he has done it but one suggestion has been because he had nothing to compare me to. However, I think the time scale is just to long that if he was truly unhappy with me he would not need a comparision to know this. It's difficult for me to offer any advice, part of me thinks good on you for doing this (perhaps my ex now has a case of the grass is greener), but I also know that if I had faced this when we both went to different uni's some years back, I would have been heartbroken, although not as much as I am now!
boogieboy Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Once you start dating in college,you probably will not have any urges to contact your bf after a while. You wont want to hear that he is dating women that he really likes. This part of your life is part of growing up and letting go. There isnt any good reason to hang on to this. Basically, if you both are dating, friendship isnt going to last. You will wind up losing touch, and basically forgetting about him. Once you start to check out new personalities, you wont see any reason to go back. You could try, but eventually you two will lose touch, its inevitable.
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