gordon_gc Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Hi, Not really sure where i should post but this section looks like the most appropriate to get some advices about my situation. Been seeing a girl for a few months now. It was mainly and entirely based on the sex and nothing else. Both were single at the time and we both agreed and had "matching point of view" about keeping it to a sex level. She went back to her home country for a few weeks (she is from overseas) where she got back with the ex-boyfriend she was with for several years (they broke up because he went back home after he finished his studies). Anyway, now, she is with this guy and keeps a long distance relationship with the guy while she is back here. We've been seeing eachother since then (still on sex basis) but she has now put a stop to it telling me she feels remorse and feels bad for the guy. I totally understand where she is coming from but still, i have trouble accepting it...well, you can't blame me, the sex was GREAT ! :-) Anyway, we are trying to keep in touch on a more civil maneer now but i'm not sure where this is gonna lead us. What do you think is going on in her head ? What should i be doing ? Hope you can help me seeing things a bit clearer.
MistyK Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Um, If this is truly about sex only, why do you care what's going on inside her head? Is it possible you have a deeper interest in her? She's told you she wants to maintain loyalty in her primary relationship, and if your relationship was sex-only I'm not sure why you're fighting that. Sounds like you need to respect her wishes and move one. Are you really unable to get "just sex" with someone else?
OWoman Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Contrary to what the media would have you believe, when a woman says no, she usually means no.
wildsoul Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Based on your stated goals, you've got a choice to make: Keep on pursuing her and you'll get LOTS of drama with little or no sex.Put your energy into accepting that it's over, and soon you'll be over your attachment to her and having happy drama-free sex with someone else.Your situation isn't at all complicated compared to the angst-riddled posts we usually have here. What's your hangup? Is it really just that you're sexually addicted to her, or is there some other investment for you?
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